I read a quote that suggested that “Strong women wear their pain like they do stilettos. No matter how much it hurts, all you see is the beauty of it.”
Bullshit. Yes, that was the
very eloquent first thought that came to my mind after
reading the words above. I don’t doubt that there are women and men who can
hurt from head to toe and still look awesome while in agony—I mean, have you
seen my modest hot self lately? *giggles*
But the idea of anyone suggesting that looking beautiful and hurting has
anything to do with strength made me want to hurl a little.
I commented under the quote, said it was “a lovely sentiment, but not realistic… Different people (women and men alike) wear their pain differently. There might be some lucky ones who wear their chronic pain beautifully… Heck, there are times when I use mine like very angry fuel—I bare my teeth, push forward and then flip the pain the bird as I go about my day… My husband often says that my courage when facing pain makes me amazing. But the pain itself (at least when it comes to my flesh and bones) is rather ugly. And sometimes, I just want to stab it in its ugly mug with one of the stilettos I had to give up after my hip said no more. We are beautiful; no argument in that, but chronic pain is ugly, ugly, ugly.”
I used to wear heels to work… They looked pretty. I really liked them. They didn’t hurt.
I used to wear interestingly shaped funky heels just to walk around. They looked pretty. I really liked them. They didn’t hurt.
The other day, when one of my doctors was writing me a new prescription for fitted shoes, she said, “I warn you. They will be ugly.”
I told her, “I don’t care. If they ease the pain just a bit, I will make them glow pretty.”
I’m pretty sure my hip looked considerably more beautiful just thinking about comfy shoes.
When I got home after my appointment, I boxed all my high heeled shoes and boots and mailed them to a gorgeous young lady who has healthy hips and feet to make the shoes shine. She is strong, determined and absolutely beautiful in heels…
I will continue to be strong, determined and absolutely beautiful in prescribed flats. Besides, these little piggies sparkle so very prettily while they are naked. *wicked grin*