Hip Over Heels

I read a quote that suggested that “Strong women wear their pain like they do stilettos. No matter how much it hurts, all you see is the beauty of it.”

Bullshit. Yes, that was the very eloquent first thought that came to my mind after reading the words above. I don’t doubt that there are women and men who can hurt from head to toe and still look awesome while in agony—I mean, have you seen my modest hot self lately? *giggles* But the idea of anyone suggesting that looking beautiful and hurting has anything to do with strength made me want to hurl a little.

I commented under the quote, said it was “a lovely sentiment, but not realistic… Different people (women and men alike) wear their pain differently. There might be some lucky ones who wear their chronic pain beautifully… Heck, there are times when I use mine like very angry fuel—I bare my teeth, push forward and then flip the pain the bird as I go about my day… My husband often says that my courage when facing pain makes me amazing. But the pain itself (at least when it comes to my flesh and bones) is rather ugly. And sometimes, I just want to stab it in its ugly mug with one of the stilettos I had to give up after my hip said no more. We are beautiful; no argument in that, but chronic pain is ugly, ugly, ugly.”  

I used to wear heels to work… They looked pretty. I really liked them. They didn’t hurt.
I used to wear interestingly shaped funky heels just to walk around. They looked pretty. I really liked them. They didn’t hurt.
The other day, when one of my doctors was writing me a new prescription for fitted shoes, she said, “I warn you. They will be ugly.”

I told her, “I don’t care. If they ease the pain just a bit, I will make them glow pretty.”

I’m pretty sure my hip looked considerably more beautiful just thinking about comfy shoes.

When I got home after my appointment, I boxed all my high heeled shoes and boots and mailed them to a gorgeous young lady who has healthy hips and feet to make the shoes shine. She is strong, determined and absolutely beautiful in heels…

I will continue to be strong, determined and absolutely beautiful in prescribed flats. Besides, these little piggies sparkle so very prettily while they are naked. *wicked grin*

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  1. Welcome to the League of Women in Sensible Shoes!

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    1. WoooHooo! A new League of Dames. I knew there had to be something extraordinary about all this. ;-D

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  2. I could never get down in heels, I've always been a comfy shoe or no shoe girl (get ready to gasp - I actually only own 4 pairs...). I think you will rock your new shoes in much the same way you do everything. With humour, spunk and a kick ass attitude!

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    1. You know, I think it's funny that I (still) own so many shoes. Nature knows that my prefer method is to wear a pair to death and then move to the next. I guess I'm with shoes (and purses) a bit like I am with books, I like to collect them, lol!

      Thank you for that last sentence, it made me grin from ear to ear. ;-D

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  3. Sometimes I think about the enormous weight of sadness I've carried all my life. It seems like a tragic thing, but I can only observe this in a strange third person kind of way.

    I can recommend, yes, TOE SHOES. They have completely changed the way I walk, and my overall health has improved immensely since switching to them; but I have a lot of foot problems, I'm not sure about hip problems. The feet are the foundation, so I imagine that a solid foundation couldn't hurt the ol' flying buttresses any.

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    1. I used to LOVE toe shoes. For running, for just walking around, for walking into the office and seeing people wonder--seriously, nothing made people frown more than me in slacks and a silk shirt and some red and black toe shoes. But *sigh* they no longer offer me enough support.

      Our health should come first, always. No one looks pretty inside when they are ill.

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  4. I'm sorry you're having so much trouble with your hip, I'm sure your new shoes
    will look great on you. I much prefer being bare-foot or wearing comfortable flats.
    And I'm not just saying that because I can't wear high heels :D

    Have a lovely day :)

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    1. I prefer bare-foot, too! There is something magical about feeling your skin make contact with the Earth that feeds us. It's one of the things I miss most... Can't wait to have a yard again. And while still walking on concrete, I shall rock the bare-toes. ;-)

      Hope you are enjoying your regained computer access!

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  5. High heels are just fashion not beauty! The better you feel, the more beautiful you will feel! Enjoy that nude tootsie action!! ;D

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    1. I have never been able to reconcile fashion that has to hurt to make a person look good. But there has to be all kinds of us to make our wonderful world go round and round, right? I shall enjoy the "nude tootsie action" indeed! I like how that sounds. ;-D

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  6. I sometimes still look good when sick and no one treats me like I am sick I get no sympathy, so it's not a good thing, ha ha!

    Also if I wore pain like stilettos I would be tripping over it all the time. I guess that's accurate?

    You can always paint your flats red or cover them in glitter paint! I always wear flats anyway, I have no sense of balance!

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    1. How unfair! You should probably start working on your I-should-get-ice-cream pout. I could ask the Little Princess to give you some pointers. She's an expert, lol!

      You know, I think many people say things without remembering that they can't speak for everyone else, and that one view can NEVER describe the entire population.

      And you've said the magic words: red and glitter. Oooh, and I had black in my mind. Now I want to get toe-creative! ;-D

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  7. Having had foot surgery twice, all I have are MBTs and flats. I wear them if I can't go barefoot. I also change my toenail polish according to the season--green March through May, blues June through August, copper September through November, and reds December through February.

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    1. I have always only painted my nails a couple of times a year. It is so rare that the Little Princess gets really excited about it. I think that I will start doing the painting thing more often. I love the idea of different designs/shades of black, red, copper, gold... It will be fun. And hooray for changing polish with the seasons!

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  8. I have memories of elegant shoes. I spent years in a technicolor assortment of "Candies" slides. The memories suffice nicely.

    Nothing, I repeat . . . . NOTHING is prettier, or more elegant than less pain.

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    1. Less pain looks freaking hot!

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  9. and that lovely long legged creature adores you and your lovingkindness, but not as much as her Oma does..............
    Happy new shoes and no pain, xoxo

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    1. And love that goes both ways is bigger and stronger because of it. Ours is HUGE! ♥

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  10. I wore heels for about 10 seconds in my early twenties. Well, actually, I wore them a little longer but they always hurt. I abandoned heels for good in my early 30s. I have always considered them to the the western form of foot binding. They are painful and make it impossible for a woman to run from predators if need be. My chronic pain is in my thumbs from arthritis. They hurt nearly all the time and sometimes will shock me with shooting sharp pains for no reason at all! But what can you do? Complain all day every day? People have no idea, not even my husband really, that they hurt all the time. And the funny thing is that while I am working, making art, they don't usually bother me. Maybe it's because my mind is focused on something else.

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    1. Your last line has me nodding like a psychopath.

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  11. I, too, miss wearing my high heels. There. Required bad joke out of the way.Changes of any sort aren't easy. You'll miss the shoes, but I like that you didn't throw them away. Things are better passed onward into the "ethereal other" than just dumped to the side like a body. As for the new "ugly shoes" Ugly is always an opinion. Always. Unless it's in behavior. So that means you're not being given ugly new shoes, you're being given shoes you have to make pretty to YOU.

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    1. I'm glad when a comment starts with fashioned truth. ;-D

      Oh, and those shoes and I are going to be extra stunning. You read and see.

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  12. Welcome Sister! I haven't worn heels since I broke a bone in my lower foot, requiring a plate & 2 tiny pins. Coupled with the osteoarthritis, heels are a no go. As for prescribed shoes being ugly, I think you'll find online, if not brick&mortar, stores that sell the same, better looking. Failing that, there's all sorts of glue, glitter, flowers, etc. for the buying at your local Craft Emporium :)

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    1. We might have to form an official club, lol!

      You must be reading my mind. This morning I told Eliora, "I need to get a glue gun. I already have glitter."

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  13. How about this... I'm not impressed by your wearing of spiked heels because you seem to have remarkably pretty feet, and fancy shoes will bugger your feet up, fast. So whatever you may claim about tripping out in Cinderella's vitreous heels, those toes suggest you've spent more time being sweet to your feet than jamming them into patent leather FMs. However, I share your pain about being denied the Jimmy Choos. I can't walk in the damn things anymore, either. Boots are my go-to for sexy legs. You, keep being nice to your sweet little feet and buy boots.

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    1. I have very lucky feet. The military usually leaves the toes looking mildly mutated, but mine seem to have survived that bit trauma.

      I shall be nice to my tootsies. ;-D

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  14. I haven't worn heels since I had my knees replaced in 1998. Sneakers with inserts for my heel pain are what I wear these days.

    I used to deal with the chronic pain beautifully. It's worn thin on me and now it's gotten very ugly and hard to manage :(

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    1. I think chronic pain ends up looking quite ugly to most of us. There are moments when it's nasty mug can be ignore, but every now and then... *sigh and ouch*

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  15. Well it's a first " My husband". well that made me wonder where " Piano !an " went? lololol
    Okay, enough! first " my husband" and now " sensible shoes". snap out of it! Go sharpen your knives and flash your brilliant smile ! xoDebi

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    1. Such great eyes, my dear Prudence. You and my Piano Man both. He was all giggles and grins when he read it, lol! One can have a Piano Man, a husband, sensible shoes, sharp blades and ever sharper smiles. ;-D

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  16. I'm so tired of the idea that women are should shut up, carry the pain on the inside and most important of all - always strive to be beautiful. Yes, make me hurl, why don't you

    I love that two of your toes are longer than your big toe - that's what my feet look like as we!

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    1. The ideas the concept of beauty can make anyone crazy and a bit sick. They make no sense to me. Then again, I feel that way about a lot of things...

      And the toes, I'm pretty sure that means we are both awesome! ;-D

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  17. I never wore really high heals but I had to give up even what I considered a moderate heel years back now but walking in them was just becoming a no no anyway so the loss was more in my soul than my body. My body, legs and hips were very happy to be in flats.

    Pardon my french but chronic pain is nothing but a bitch in the derriere. I take enough pain killers to rattle but sadly I've lost the ability to shake and roll. My docs keep saying try distraction techniques, well sometimes that works, sometimes I can get lost in the ideas swirling around in my brain. Other times the pain fights back deep and dirty and refuses to bloody shift out of my consciousness. Only someone else who has it will understand that. It's those times you need to rest.

    One positive is that you can still dance in flats Magaly, keep dancing as long as you can, show the pain it can take away your heels but it can't take away your spirit.

    Jx

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    1. There are times when nothing works. And you are so right, the concept is very difficult to explain to someone who hasn't experience this meanness... In those those, I find a quite place and let the pain run its course. Eventually we go back to speaking terms.

      We shall shake our fists at the pain... together. ;-)

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  18. Heels. Something I've never been able to master. I honestly am envious of anyone who can, or could, pull off heels and not look like a hillside godafroe. I would lurch and wobble in them, I looked like a man trying to master heels for the first time. Except, I never got better at it. Now that I have a crappy hip and weirdo feet (complete with sperm toes, can I say that here?!) and back that screeches louder than any hillside godafroe ever thought of screeching, I can't even look at heels. If I do, I start lurching and wobbling.....even while sitting.

    I truly hope your pain goes away, I hope these new shoes help you. You'll make them the sexiest fitted shoes on Earth, of that I'm certain! :)

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    1. You've made me roar so loud. Thank you!

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    2. ;) Anytime, dear.

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  19. I had non stop pain a few years ago with sciatica. Eventually it went away and I'm going to do my best to send your pain away too!

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    1. Oh my goodness, I sooo hope I will be able to say "it went away" for some of my pain. I'm happy for you... and hopeful for me. ;-)

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  20. Shoes pfft! Who needs em anyway...now boots, lace-up, heeled boots I miss :D XXX

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    1. I just pictured some red lace-up boots. Yum!

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  21. You are beautiful, no matter what you wear!
    I have to admit to you, I have always had "wide" feet. I have had maybe one pair of high heeled shoes in m y life? And, they didn't last long, because they weren't the right width. I have always wanted high heeled shoes or just a pair of funky shoes! Oh well, running shoes and sensible shoes for me! ;o) At least I can buy pink laces ;o) LOL!
    Big Hugs ;o)

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    1. Ha! I just finished lacing up my sneakers, changing my white laces for pink!

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