Tuesday, February 18, 2014

In Their Heart of Hearts, They Are Fighting for Your Soul

Every time I write a post thematically similar to the post that precedes this one, at least one person asks, “Why do you continue to let this kind of people in your life?”  

Simple question, right? Sure. But the answer comes in complex folds. The first bit has to do with the reason why I started writing Pagan Culture: to show a glimpse into a Witch’s life. I’ve always thought that the only way—okay, perhaps not the only, but an effective way—to let others see what we are about is to show them. So I opened my virtual window and began to show the public everyday life through the eyes of a dark fiction writer who happens to be a Witch.

Anyone following this blog for more than a few months knows that I have a wild heart, a soul that finds comfort in dark and light, I love words, I’m intrigued by people, I’m quite vocal when it comes to my Piano Man’s sexy bits (and to pretty much everything else), I’ve made some rather stupid mistakes, I’ve accomplished some wonderful things (and messed up others), I’ve lost a little brother who took a huge chunk of my heart with him, I still have a big brother who is nothing like me but who was my first hero, I love my father more than I love coffee (and that is a whole lot of love), I embrace diversity and eclecticism, my definition of spirituality is independent from religiosity…

…I believe in the words of Philo of Alexandria, in order to create community I can never forget to “Be kind, for everyone [I] meet is fighting a great battle.”

Some are probably telling themselves, “You know Witch? You could have answered the ‘simple question’ with the last sentence. The 128 words about what you believe in, or have lived, and whatnot, aren’t really necessary.”

But those of you who have been fighting the same battles understand that without a living foundation the words of Philo hold very little meaning. I continue to allow people—who can sometimes be hurtful—into my life, because I believe that in their heart of hearts they believe they are fighting for my soul. I know my soul needs no fighting for, but they don’t know that. I’m hoping all this sharing will take us to a balanced place where they can say, “Oh wow, I guess the Witch is all right, even if she doesn’t sit on my butt-numbing pew.”

Daisies might look fragile, but anyone who has ever taken the time to watch them grow knows they are extremely strong. Someone who has never gardened might feel the need to protect the flimsy-looking flower. Sometimes, we need to let the non-gardeners do their thing… at least for a bit… maybe until they realize that a daisy enjoys the rain, so a seemingly protective umbrella is only keeping a wild flower from the joys offered by Nature. 

via Dantes 2nd Inferno

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  1. When those who think that my soul needs saving start breaking out the stake & fire, then this daisy reveals the snapdragon. ;)

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    1. Indeed. It is nice to give people the chance to know us, but if their dislike for who we are makes them dangerous, then we should be reading to show our teeth.

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  2. hmmmmm, Daisies . . . . . Isn't it a marvel how the loveliest things come out of the dirt?

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    1. Few things promote grow as well as a nice pile of rich dirt.

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  3. You let people in because you've got a big heart Magaly and a heart will mostly win over the head every time. I've tried to close my heart of a number of times, I know it has had appalling judgement in the past. It's let far to many people in who have tried to break it. Never works though, our hearts run on hope and that is one emotion that will always try to look for the best in people.

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    1. It's silly to say it, but I will: few things are accomplished without taking risks. I'm very grateful for your kindness. I, too, think my heart is on the biggish side, but I do also have very selfish reasons for being the way I am. I don't like the way the world works--the way we act towards each other. I think everything would be much better if we learn to appreciate other people's needs/wants/choices, even if we don't quite like them.

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  4. I rather like the 128 word explanation and know that for you it is necessary and essential. Diversity of thought brings pain....either in growth or stagnation....and you my love could never be accused of being stagnant. And besides who better to let the masses know your heart than you. I admire the fact that you continue to be you and if that means head bumping then you know your daisy roots will support you. xoxo Oma Linda

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    1. There is no growth--or rebirth--without a bit of pain... wise, wise Oma.

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  5. If you only knew how long I've been trying to comment!
    Anyway! "Daisy Chain Necklaces". anyone recall how strong they are to wear! running in the fields ?
    Wild Floweres are deceiving and strong , they need know saving! So soul savers need not apply! Free. Will is In charge so back to your glass houses with ya!
    Speaking of romping in the fields! Anyone seen Spring Yet? xoxoDebi

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    1. I think that if they added respect to their soul-saving toolkit, then everybody would get along just fine. Respect would imply letting others be. But too many of us walk around believing we know best... such a lie.

      Spring? What is that? I have snow, if you want some. ;-D

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  6. Giving them the benefit of the doubt. Yes, they believe they are trying to help, to save you but I also find it very arrogant. Tend to your soul, I'll tend to mine.

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    1. Disrespectful, arrogant, annoying and many other things. It reminds me of the reasons why some countries declare war on each other--I know better than you, so I can save you from yourself; You have no idea what the truth is, I will shove it down your throat for your own good. Goodness, the improvement we would make as a society if we let people explain what they mean--what they are bringing in--instead of pushing to show them that our way is best. Arrogant, indeed.

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  7. Great post, Magaly. Those words of Philo of Alexandria are so powerful. I really think that you need to approach people with kindness and compassion, because most people are all trying to get through life the best way they can, and everyone has challenges. I know that if I had been born and raised in India, I'd probably be a Hindu or maybe a Muslim. Wherever. Whatever. I think there are many paths to spirituality and God. I love your spirit and voice. That's why I keep reading your posts! Have a happy day!

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    1. I think talking and sharing brings us forward as a people. If we know that we aren't all that different after all--even if we choose different ways to live--maybe we would start throwing rocks at each other. We can only hope, right?

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  8. Perhaps at heart, you are an educator.

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    1. I think we all are. For instance, I know a lady who is always teaching me very deep, socio-political lessons via her sharing of the funnies. *wink, wink, wink*

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  9. Simple kindness is indeed underrated. I think it's also true that wrathful people are simply under more stress than others. It would be better to not take bad feelings out on others, but holding stress in can make you explode. (At least that's what doctor's have told my husband about his heart condition.) Maybe solitude is best sometimes...

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    1. We all need our cave. Okay, maybe it might be just me (and your husband), lol. I think that if I don't spend certain amount of time with myself, the world would be very confusing.

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  10. It must get harder and harder to trust friendships and to extend loving arms when you keep being let down.

    My thoughts are with yourself and your loved ones as you cherish the wonderful memories of your dear brother :)

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    1. In a way it has become harder to trust others. But also easier to make the choices. The more we live--pains and all--the more we learn. So I'm just more cautious.

      Thank you for the thoughts. ;-)

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  11. Ummm, what are they trying to do, save you from ummm, being human, being different to them, being self-righteous??? Don't get it, they want you to be like them, um, we are no longer human if we are all the same... then we are robots, programmed to think, see, believe, look, dress, all the same... f a duck, I don't want everyone to be like me, nor I like them (especially if they are users and a-holes)... I think This person has a lot of problems, but because you accepted them, tried to help them, they somehow felt superior, like you were there for their convenience, to further their quest(s) and interests on their terms, accepting your generous help, but not you... Think I said this before... F 'em. Truthfully, let them have a think about it, if they have a brain and a soul, and respect for others, they may have learnt their actions were thoughtless, maybe downright pathetic. Hugs xox

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    1. Sometimes, I wonder what people hear when they open their mouths. Or if they think about it afterwards. And if they do, how come they don't walk around with their heads low in shame. People are a really strange bunch... and sometimes, the bunchiness (I'm sure that's not a word) stinks.

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    2. Bunchiness so should be a word. I mean, it even sounds bunchy. ;-D

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    3. I used to wear my hair in bunches, before it was long enough to wear in ponies, all your words are totally acceptable in my world, I love the way you create totally acceptable sentences using them, you are a awesome creator of new words, and they always make sense :)

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    4. Well, go me! then. Hm... I wonder if I should start wearing my hair in bunches every now and then. ;-D

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  12. Your description of what you love and what touches you is so beautiful and heartfelt! Like you, I take comfort in both dark and light, and a rather dry, darkly sarcastic sense of humour.

    I know a bit how you feel. Some ridiculous woman told my mum she would pray for me when she found out I was into Gothic things. As if I somehow needed saving. People make so many assumptions about you based on so many shallow observations! Grrr.

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    1. I find your sense of humor rather attractive. I was telling a friend about your story, today. Then we laughed after he read it.

      If those who are always trying to pray for the change of others took that time to try to get to know them, I think everyone involved would be much happier. But assuming and feeling superior might feel easier for some. Who knows.

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  13. Beautiful words about daisy... I grow fennel well these days - it likes cold weather! :) I got it!
    Be blessed, Magaly!

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    1. I might have to get my hands on some fennel!

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  14. I can attest that your soul is doing just fine and doesn't need to be saved!

    Living in the deep south, the belt buckle of the bible belt and in the closet once again behind the winter coats, I well understand the thought process this person is going through. Even though I have once again hidden my beliefs, many know I am "different" and feel it is their duty to "save my soul" so as I don't go to hell. Well, my soul is doing quite well without their help and I fight the urges to jump into inane conversations on religion with those whose minds are narrow beyond belief. So, hang in there and let that person go. They will only bring turmoil into your life.

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    1. Hooray! My soul and I just did a little dance. ;-D

      Maybe one day people would stop trying to save what needs no saving, and use the time to see what is there. Even enjoy it!

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  15. I agree with Gail ;o) Your soul is doing just fine and doesn't need to be saved ;o) But, I understand what you are saying ;o) Just don't let anyone hurt you! You don't deserve that! Big Hugs ;o)

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    1. Gail is a brilliant lady, isn't she?

      It is hard not to let people hurt us. But I will try. And if they do anyway, I will move on. Don't I always? And yes, there will be dancing. ;-D

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  16. You eclectic diversity is a beautiful example to all, and those who want to change (or "save" you) are not worthy of your friendship. My heart bleeds when you are hurt my love, but I know it is your warrior Aries soul that keeps you fighting for human tolerance in the world. Just another reason I adore you. Mina

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    1. And you are adored right back. It is so good to read you, my Mina.

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