Sometimes, I Just Don’t Like People…

I rarely post twice in a day, but I am irritated, and must let it out if I am to get anything done. 

This is my first year doing NaNoWriMo… And although I will be the first one to confess that I will probably only do it unofficially next year, I don’t like the people who go around saying that “the National Novel Writing Month is a waste of time for everyone.” How do they know what’s a waste or gain of time for anyone other than themselves? That kind of I-know-better-than-you- attitude annoys me to no end. It makes me want to bare my teeth (Not even a tiny bit pretty, I know)
I don’t think that I can write a novel (perhaps, not even a decent draft) in 30 days. But who cares! I have a few friends, who are excellent storytellers, but tend to not write as much as they should. NaNoWriMo is helping them set a goal or two… even three (which is a much better number).

Many of the individuals making the claims assure others that they are just worried about the writing productivity and the self-esteem of those participating in the event. Well, if their preoccupation is so high, why not just suggest that they join—if that’s what they wish to do—but to be okay with not finishing 50,000 words?

Here is my advice to those worried about the 50,000 words by November 30th (some of my friends are), don’t start fretting about how terrible it will be if we don’t complete this. If you, and by “you” I mean “me, end up writing only 13,000 awesome words, those are 13,000 awesome freaking words that we didn’t have before. (sometimes, I just love to throw pronouns around... and enclose things in parentheses).

I will aim for the 50,000 words, and try as hard as I know how, until the task goes from fun to torturous. At the moment, I’m ahead... If I feel that my plot is going to shite (I’m feeling a bit British), I will go back to writing at my own pace. I will not allow anyone/anything, not even my Aries-must-always-win-bullheadedness, take away from the pleasure I get out of writing. And I will definitely NOT give society the power to dictate how I feel about the things I choose to do.

I hope you feel the same. And this time, the “you” truly means “we.”

Write on, my Wicked Luvs! 
All that teeth-baring was starting to hurt my face; here is a more relaxing flash ;-D

49 comments:

  1. You are such an inspiration :) <3

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  2. Feel better now! You are correct! It is an exercise in discipline! ( I hate discipline so I smelt it a mile away! ) The world is full of armchair critics, a sad lot actually... Thankfully , the more complaining and sour grapes you face the more confidence you should feel that you are on your correct path!
    On tumblr, I follow slither? Something or other and his advice is always Write every chance you get! Even if it is crap! Keep that beautiful smile glowing! You light up the world to possibilities that way! xoxoxoDebi

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    1. You are so right, Prudence, the more they try to say that this and that don't matter, the harder we try to prove them wrong. They can choke in their negativity!

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    2. *on* They can choke on it LOL

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    3. Both is good ! xoDebi

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  3. those that can't (or won't) criticize. and when they are called on it, then they are only doing it for your own good.

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    1. "those that can't (or won't) criticize. and when they are called on it, then they are only doing it for your own good."

      Some words need to be repeated, over and over...

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  4. Yay at feeling British! I do it all the time! ;)

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    1. LOL, Michelle, you are too hilarious! I've missed you!

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  5. Well said Magaly. :)

    I've looked at Nano for a few years but always had a voice both the one in my head and well meaning other people around me asking what the point was and it put me off. This year I joined. The goal of 50K words was never really the aim for me. Having the attention span and focus of a goldfish I don't even read long novels so I'd no intention of trying to write one. I like short stories and poetry, things that are broken in bits my brain can deal with. I was disheartened last night because the story I've been working on just wasn't working and going down on paper how it was playing in my head. So this morning I've picked myself up and put the 1000 and so words of that to one side to let it brew a bit more and just decided to do something else. My aim was to try and write something every day, doesn't matter to me if it's non fiction, family history or short stories, as long as I keep enjoying it. Got a new idea brewing now so I'll see where that leads, the main thing is to keep writing.

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    1. What matters is accomplishing our own goals, methinks. Other people--especially those who are only around to criticize--can go and smoke a rotten pen!

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    2. Lovely picturesque words. Have a great image in my head now, words can paint pictures just as well as a paint brush.

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  6. I completely agree. I'm doing NaNoWriMo this year as well. I'm not doing it to win I'm doing it for me. I have no real motivation when it comes to writing. Not long term anyway. I'll start on a new novel only to put it down and walk away from it not long after. I'm using NaNoWriMo as a way to keep myself focused on my self appointed task. Whether I reach the 50,000 words or not I know that I'll do good. :)

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    1. I'm all about pleasing myself before I try to please others *cough, cough* I don't think we ever do a good job at anything, if we don't take care of our needs first. Write on!

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  7. I have NO desire to participate in this HOWEVER, I fully support you and everyone else who does!! No one, and I don't care who they are, has any right to determine what is right for anyone other than themselves. If they feel it's a waste of time and won't do any good, that is THEIR perception and they are the one who will never experience something new. Besides, they are just jealous....

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    1. Right back at you, Vickie! Friends are not those who do all the things they like to do with you, but those who are there doing things with you even when they don't particularly love it.

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  8. Let it out!
    Those who say it is a waste of time are those who can not and should not do it. But don't get in the way of those doing it!

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  9. The photo with the teeth--THAT'S a freakin' MARINE.

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  10. I have to admit, I'm a little startled by the nay-sayers, specially those who are selling their work. Why are they being so derisory? If it's not for them, that's fine, but to sour other people's efforts seem unnecessarily negative. After all, to learn to write, we have to actually WRITE. (yeah, I used caps. I never do, but this is important) At the end of November we'll all have learned several things we didn't know before we started. That we have/don't have the willpower. Or that we find writing can be as much a chore as a joy. Maybe we find that the words flow like blood from a gaping wound we didn't know we had .Either way, we'll be 50,000 words closer (some more, some less), to being a better writer. Who could complain about that?

    *Passes more tea and crumpets, as you're feeling British*

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    1. I don't get it either... Everybody learns differently, and some of us need the extra push when it comes to discipline. If it doesn't work for them that's okay, but they should stop getting on the way of others...

      "crumpets" yum!

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    2. I hope there is lashings of butter on them crumpets if you are feeling British. :)

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  11. I am thinking of making a meme out of that "angry" picture. The ugly truth is, it made me laugh...

    I'm sorry, I find it hard to believe there are folks out there who bought into the belief that this is about writing 50,000 words? REALLY?... No, REALLY????

    It's about starting the novel you never got around too but aches in your heart.
    It's about challenging yourself and the limits you put upon yourself when you have forgotten that you are limitless.
    It's about seeing that you got way father than you expected and since you are almost done... you will keep going.
    Its about establishing a writing habit... one that could last you a life time if you allow it.
    It's about challenge the blank paper and the so called writer's block-- There is no spoon... there is no block.
    It's about putting down foolish and limiting writing devices and trusting yourself to just write.... and watch the interesting mysteries unfold with in the chaos and mess.
    It's about developing personal character, not fictional characters.

    The naysayer... well, they are just spewing from fear and weakness believing if they can be big, ugly and nasty it will some how make them shine brighter than the ones shining from the hard work. The truth is... KARMA is a BITCH!

    Love Ya!

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    1. My angry pictures are the worse, aren't they? In truth, I don't make a good angry girl... My pissed off face is usually creepy and makes people sweat a bit. Yes, this angry is definitely hilarious ;-D

      Your listing is very accurate... Writing (via NaNoWriMo or anything else) should be about the goals of the individual. Some of us like to do it in groups, with other people watching... Those who are bothered by it, should leave the room or shut up.

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  12. People are irritating the shite (feeling a tad Brit as well! hehe ) out of me at moment too! Stealing content, opportunism, and those who criticize other people's choices in a lame attempt to justify their own choices! Grr... If they don't have anything positive to contribute, they should just shut their cakeholes! ;)

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    1. Don't get me started with the people stealing bit... These last few weeks I've spent sending complains to Blogger about copycats and people just stealing my stuff. Not cool; not cool at all...

      Totally agree with the last line, their cakeholes should be stuffed with some common sense!

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  13. I did Nano one year, and actually completed the whole 50,000 words. Then I lost the entire thing...okay...i deleted it...don't ask. I regret doing it every day. Go for it and don't forget to share it with us!

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    1. I'm sitting here, shaking a little, wondering at the reasons that would make you delete 50,000 words of hard work... Sorry. Maybe one day, you'll go back to the idea.

      Of course, I will show it ;-D

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  14. Most of the people who say that something is a waste of time aren't bothering to put forward the time anyway. It's easier to say something is valueless than to admit to laziness- or, and this is catty of me- inability. If you enjoy collecting pebbles shaped like Benjamin Franklin (I'm googling this, as I have money on the fact it's a real thing...) then that has value. It's not for someone else to say what hobby is of value to another. *holds up pebble* This one looks like John Adams...?

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    1. I don't think it is all that "catty" of you, many times we criticize our own faults when we see them on others. And just so you know, I googled "pebbles shaped like Benjamin Franklin"!

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  15. You go girl! I agree with everything you have said! People have too much to say!!! They should just shut-up! I am proud of you and wish you all the best!!! I love both pictures!!! Big Hugs ;o)

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    1. They should put a sock in it and do their own thing... Everybody would be a little happier. No one learns with someone else's head, I'm sure that those who end this challenge feeling that it didn't work for them won't do it next year. But they will know that they tried

      Hugs, right back at you ;-D

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  16. I've heard the argument that it's a waste of time. And I agree with your reasons for not agreeing with those individuals.

    I'm glad you're having fun with NaNoWriMo. :)

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    1. I am having a blast. And I can see why it might be a waste of time for some, but if it works for others, the first group should keep their peace...

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  17. Some people just don't understand that everyone has their own choices, their own vision, their own LIFE, hence they trouble others. Let them speak, and do what you feel like doing, what you like to do!
    Morning greetings and hugs!

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    1. Every time people go around saying my way is better than yours, things don't end well. I wish we would pay more attention to that... I shall let them speak, they need something to do with all that hot air, right? lol

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    2. Just had this issue yesterday... It is so difficult to understand others, and well, I tried to explain that I need life of my own... I doubt anybody got it :( I said much too... I hate myself when I do, it was an overflow of all things I couldn't resist to spit out... I feel exhausted and disappointed now. Is there a right way of teeth bearing?

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  18. The point is to get your juices flowing and to push yourself. People can be so critical. I feel like it's probably their way of trying to control the world around them. Makes me feel a little sorry for them.

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    1. I think some of them might have true good intentions, but the way they choose to deliver their opinions is doing no one any good.

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  19. If it's such a waste of time...why are they there? Why are they commenting? Are they afraid of the competition? In guess some people (by whom I mean them) are born to spread despair, while others(by whom I mean you) are born to stomp the shite out of them*is British*, and illuminate the lives of the insecure :D XXX

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    1. They probably did it once. It didn't work for them. So, of course, it must suck. It sounds like the reasoning of a rebellious child who can't put his puzzle together, so of course, no one else can do it either. They need to move on.

      Your British(ness) completes me ;-D

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  20. For me, this is an opportunity to take back something that I allowed to be taken from me. To undo that vow may very well take 50,000 words of promise. By doing it publicly, I have created a circle of writing buddies that will commiserate and support me as I do so with them. It has already shown me, in a very tangible way, that I still put the needs and desires of everyone else before mine. I need to do this, I have to do this, I will do this.

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    1. And that, my dear Sharon, means the world. I like the publicity of it, for the same reason I like exercising with other people: there are times when I wake up feeling lazy, but seeing (or hearing) the motivation in others makes my own muse come out to play.

      We will do this!

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  21. Totally agree with you here. I've been doing Nano for ages and I've heard all sorts of disparagements about it...including that it's "not for serious authors."

    Riiiiight, because serious authors never engage in wackiness for a month. Or put themselves up to a ridiculous challenge. Or work under crazy deadlines. That NEVER happens. No, serious authorhood is all typewriters and whiskey and hunting defenseless animals and casual misogyny.

    *rolls eyes so hard they fall out*

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    1. I've seen the bit about "not for serious authors" attached to so many things. It makes me a little sick. Makes me want to roll their eyes... with a spoon LOL

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  22. You go on with your bad-ass Aries self, honey. I'm with you...who is anyone to say what anyone else can or cannot do, and what is the big deal if the entire 50,000 words are not complete? The biggest issue we humans face is not having goals to begin with. How can you reach a destination if you don't even know what train to get on? I say PFFFFFFFFFFFTTTTTTT!

    By the way, your bared teeth look is pretty scary. ;-) Hugs sweetie. Mina

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    1. "How can you reach a destination if you don't even know what train to get on?" You tell them, Mina love!

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