Earlier today, I received a message from a very upset gentleman. He was livid—with reason, too—because a different gentleman was unkind to someone who didn’t deserve it in the least. My first reaction was anger… towards the unkind person. I’m not the nicest of souls when I’m upset, so I didn’t contact him. I didn’t want to say things I couldn’t take back. I went and read on the evidence, instead. Then I contacted the person who was disrespected.
I was greeted by a sweet voice and an even sweeter disposition. I asked her for details. She explained that she messaged an individual, who had posted some of her work without her permission, to ask to be given credit. The person insulted her, in very nasty words… She contacted others, made the communication public on her Facebook wall and others tried to help.
The fire of the helpers came very hot. So much so that the flames might have been blinding… After speaking to the lady, she and I figured out that the person in question had deleted the work that had been taken from her. We also figured out that the person had actually just shared a post that had been shared by someone else on Facebook.
But that was not the issue. The problems were the insults. So I contacted the offending party. I was upset. He was upset. His fiancée was upset. We were all pissed off, but talking… and we all understood—some faster than others *sigh*—that the offending party was wrong. Rudeness doesn’t begin to describe the behavior. He apologized, stepped down from the position that might put him in the same situation in the future. That isn’t a perfect solution, but it is a decent one…
Now, this is my problem. I won’t name the messengers, but I’ve received a total of 11 emails from people saying things like: “Edward Menten plagiarized again. And you defended him. How does it feel to get sh!t on your face?” others said, “Karma is a bitch!” and there were others along the same lines.
Can you see the problem here, my Wicked Luvs? Only two people, of those with whom I spoke, actually listened to me or took the time to go back and read. Only two people—Marjenna and Kirt—recognized the actual problem: Edward Menten was completely out of line and needed to apologize. However, everybody emailed me about a case of plagiarism (supposedly committed by Edward Menten) that didn’t take place on this occasion.
What is wrong with us that we are so upset by the past that we fail to stop, look at the evidence, and make sure that hearts and souls are taken care of before we jump to condemn someone for an offense that doesn’t even exist?
This post might have typos. I’m not going to proofread it. I’m upset and a bit disgusted by some of the actions and talks of some individuals who contacted me and others who just ran their mouths without doing any research.
But that’s okay. I’m also happy… Marjenna and Kirt reminded that although many of us are too angry to look for reasons and truths and to even care for one another, a selected few care to take the time to find solutions to problems in ways that make us better and not bitter.
Weeping Angel by SunshineShelle