Hypocrites Aren’t Lovely

1. I don’t like admitting my mistakes. I still do what I must, but I hate saying, “I was wrong.”

2. Recently (okay, last night) I deduced that I can be as hypocritical as the next person.

3. I had never had an exchange with Christian Day, but I totally detested the man.

4. Some time back, a friend sent me a link to an article written by Christian. I refused to read it, and I’m pretty sure I sneered at my friend. When he asked why I disliked Christian so much, I told him the truth: “I have no idea. I just can’t stand the man.”

5. As a result of recent events, I’ve exchanged comments with Christian on several posts/walls. Now I know why I disliked him so much. I also know that I was wrong. Yes, Christian might be one of the most politically incorrect individuals I’ve come across, but so is my dear friend over at Militant Queer and I love him anyway. Heck, I’m not crazy about some of the things I’ve said and I still adore me. 

6. So... I, Magaly Guerrero, *grinds teeth* admit to have been wrong to dislike Christian Day without knowing him at all. Some of his methods might still make me cringe-giggle, but I can’t go around saying that the biggest and most beautiful freedom a person can have is the choice to be exactly who she or he is, and then turn back and dislike someone for embracing his inner potty mouthiness. That would make me a hypocrite. And that’s too ugly of a trait for someone as gorgeous, amazing (and modest) as moi.

7. I’m going to get a Kindle copy of The Witches’ Book of the Dead. It can be the second of three gifts I plan to give deliciously precious me for this All Hallow’s Eve ;-)

You would think that with that cover and that title, I would have read this book already.

Wondering what this is about? Of course you are. If not, just pretend. I would hate to be the only nosy one in this relationship. Those 7 things about me were required by the Lovely Blog Award I received from the Faerie Barista, who received if from She Who Seeks, who begot… oops, wrong story!

Now I must give the award to 7 other bloggers, but I want to throw a little twist into the rules. These last few days have been strange, and not so sweet, so I’m asking my nominees to share something lovely and heartwarming. We need sugariness around the world, so I’m nominating the authors of:
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I left the 7th spot open for Wicked Darlings who want to share something lovely and heartwarming that happened to them in the last few days. Share the Happies and bring on the Smiles ;-)
for the love of frogs sitting on ripe blackberries and random happy giggles ;-)

51 comments:

  1. Just a BIG ol smile! Love you to pieces!! <3

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  2. My husband and I think that our oldest daughter might had ADD and my sister and brother in law gave us some advice because I don't want to give her medication so they told me another way.

    Also I think your AWESOME Magaly. ;)

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    1. Yay! Meds help many, but if something that doesn't involve chemicals can do the job, what a joy! I pray it words like a charm.

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  3. I have ADD myself. The H part of the ADHD calms down considerably as an adult (or so I've been told). What has worked for me is regular exercise & counted cross stitch embroidery (helps to train my mind to focus on one thing at a time), admitting that I work best when I can get up & move around as needed while working on a project, & acknowledging that there are some things I can't do. Math & numbers for example. Some people enjoy them, like accountants. Therefore, it's much easier & more efficient to hire someone. No shame in learning differently. (I'm 52) 7 things, huh? I have a medical issue to deal with, so mid-October I will post! :)

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    1. Thank you for sharing. My daughter likes her music. So I think that is what helps her focus.

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    2. It's all about using what you have, isn't it? I turn my OCD towards keeping the house clean, organizing plots and remembering quotes. Okay, the latter is not as useful, but when I'm getting too restless reciting quotes in my head keeps me center. Gods, we are a bunch of witchy weirdos LOL

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  4. When I was young, I was very self-righteous about condemning hypocrisy. Now that I'm middle-aged, I know that everyone is a "hypotwit" sooner or later, including me. Welcome to our ranks, Magaly!

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    1. Do I get a nice pair of purple fingerless gloves?

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  5. I have a Kindle edition of The Witches’ Book of the Dead. I bought it t see what all of the (back then) fuss was about ("It has a skull on the cover!" [paraphrased]). What I found it to be is a nice introduction to the subject, even though I still have a few problems with the overall book (contradictory stances given from chapter to chapter, the felling that I'm reading a marketing flier for Salem shops, and no research resources given).

    That said, the last chapter, A Festival of the Dead, is a treasure and well worth the Kindle price, in my opinion.

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    1. I'm excited about the reading now. I have avoided reviews, so it will be completely new for me. I can't wait to read A Festival of the Dead ;-)

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    2. Hi Astoresh, Did you check the notes section at the back of the book? Weiser wouldn't let me do footnotes like I wanted so I put research sources in the book's end notes. I was terrified not to and it's why it took my so long to write the book because my friend Bloody Mary (a New Orleans voodoo priestess) always insisted to me that I must have "source material." It's why so many of the sources are actually primary, i.e. ancient greco-roman and the like. Yes, there is a appendix in the back on Salem shops (most of them not mine, actually), but that's just so there's a place for people to get supplies. Not sure about the contradictory stances but some may be because I originally had a co-author and took over the book myself. I had hoped I caught anything like that so if you can think of any examples, please let me know.

      The Festival of the Dead chapter is definitely my favorite too. It's the only book I could find with all of those in it. I had to really really dig for them too. The source books for that have some great info also.

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  6. Viewing the evolution of another's thinking may well lead a person to see hypocrisy. There are many ideas and ideals I have previously championed loudly and long, that I now reject, absolutely. Does that make me a hypocrite? I don't think so. I believe it show the ability to learn, and embrace enlightenment.

    Is there a support group for Hypocrites? My name is Lorelei, and I am a Hypocrite



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    1. I guess if we hold on to the old ideals, just because we are too proud to say that we messed up then we would be hypocrite forever. But you are right, it's about growth and enlightenment. Maybe we can be the first two members of HAiR (Hypocrites Anonymous in Recovery) *grin*

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  7. I has to think of something "sugary sweet"? Gah! talk about making a girl work for her goodies.....hmmmmmmmmm.....this could turn into a self promoting exercise :/ *goes away to think* :D XXX

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    1. "making a girl work for her goodies..." Why am I thinking dirty thoughts?

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  8. I have to admit......myself......that I have no bloody idea who Christian Day is. :) I guess I will be trying to remedy that, now. I, too, have said some things that I now have to eat. Like.......Christo-paganism can't be a "thing". Etc. I suppose I, of all people, shouldn't be saying which types of paganism can be a "thing." ;) We all have these moments. It's how we grow.

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    1. I've always believe that only a pretty extreme hypocrite can say that he/she beliefs in something, and then fault someone else just because the other person's beliefs don't make sense.

      I still think that Christo-Paganism is a difficult concept to bring together, where do you leave the Bible, you know? But if someone can reconcile that and make it work for them, well, the more power to them ;-)

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  9. Thank you Magaly that's very sweet!!!! :):)

    Just a note for the person above ... you gotta check the notes section at the back of the book. I have an enormous amount of research sources. As a matter of fact, I was terrified not to and it's why it took my so long to write the book because my friend Bloody Mary (a New Orleans voodoo priestess) always insisted to me that I must have "source material." It's why so many of the sources are actually primary, i.e. ancient greco-roman and the like. Yes, there is a appendix in the back on Salem shops (most of them not mine, actually), but that's just so there's a place for people to get supplies. :)

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    1. That's because I'm sweet and lovely, haven't you heard? I even got an award for it ;-)

      I'm excited about reading your book. Now I'll double check the sources *cough, cough plus a wicked grin*

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  10. Prima, it takes a big woman to admit that. :) Now the people you DO meet in person and they rub you the wrong way for some reason. That's not hypocrisy, that's your intuition telling you to stay the hell away :)

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    1. Primo de mi alma, you are absolutely right. It was difficult. I had to overcome all kinds of pride: Dominican pride, witchy pride, Marine pride *sigh* but we all need to grow up some time.

      P.S. Now I can't stop thinking about that annoying person in the theater who yells, "Run, bitch, he's gonna kill you!"

      And no, I have no idea where that came from lol

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  11. Hypocrisy! I hate that more than anything ~ especially when the hypocrite is religious and has the nerve to tell others how to live their lives while doing the same things he/she is condemning others for. Kudos to you for seeing a touch of hypocrisy in yourself and examining it! It's much harder to see things in ourselves; and I, for sure, have been guilty of hypocrisy and other not-so-flattering things! LOL What a tiny frog ~ I wouldn't have seen it it you hadn't mentioned it! Favorite happies in the past few days: walking along a high plains dirt road and taking pictures of anything that caught my fancy, hugs from my Ever-Patient husband, and morning cups of steaming coffee, and MUSIC ~ always music. Take care!

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    1. I think we've all been guilty of this crime. Some of us go through life without seeing our trespasses, but I believe others see it anyway. And that blows.

      I LOVE taking pictures of whatever catches my eyes: an oddly colored leave, a frog on berry lol. It's just sweet!

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  12. Congrats to Mina (with sprinkles) and the wonderful Magic Love Crow! And you are delicious, yes.

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    1. Yay, right back! And thank you ;-)

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  14. Do n't think i did n't notice you cheated right about now! You just did your post and put 1-7 in front of the sentences.
    That is freaking brilliant!

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    1. You caught me! LOL I think most people hate receiving awards because the posts can be so boring, but if we take a little time (and cheat), they can be quite inspiring ;-D

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  15. I'd be a hypocrite if I said anything nice or sweet today, the Australian public just took a HUGE step backwards and voted in a Liar, Con-man and unenlightened idiot as the new prime minister yesterday :(

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    1. That blows. Maybe you need to bask in the sweet bits people have shared. It seems you and your fellow citizens might need a lot of it in the years to come ;-(

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  16. Lovely and sweet....? My baby girl spoke her first word yesterday "duck!" :)

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    1. She said "duck"? LOL Was there a duck any time around? You must get her a stuff duck or something. That's priceless ;-D

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    2. we have ducks galore! plastic ones, movies, books, etc. She just loves them! maybe someday it wont be hotter than shi* and we'll head to the park to visit real live ones! :)

      have a great day!
      -A

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    3. Well, that's explains it all then. I bet he'll be fascinated when he sees the real ones ;-)

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  17. Welcome to the ranks of the world of yep, I was wrong. I don't like it either but as I have gotten older it matters most to "know" about a situation, rather than the ongoing popular assuming. I used to believe things that I do not now, does that make me a hypocrite, no, it means I am better educated.
    When Ry first came to live with us, I thought I knew that he had autism but I wasn't sure what it was......so I expected him to behave like a "normal" kid but a little different. Now that was stupid. He is hardwired differently and after 4 years of day to day I know that it isn't personal when he ignores me or tries to school me (aspergian trait as well as being a fellow Aries). Rather he is one of those people who taught me to think differently because I gave up thinking I knew what is the whole truth. Does it make me hypocritical in my early stages, or hypocritical now because I have a different view of his truth? I think not. Remember.....he said we also share not only our birthdays but our autism. I know he is right.
    The new baby kitten at our Casa has won over a very arthritic old grumpy cat with her black cat juju and I found them curled up sleeping in the sun on her kitty condo today. It actually made me say "awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww". That's about as sweet as it gets. Oma Linda

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    1. I like the idea of being better educated than I was before. I remember when Ry came to you, and how things have changed through the years. I'm proud of all of you. And happy for you.

      Sweet little Una will have no problem winning the world. "Black cat juju," indeed! Sweet and heartwarming :D

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  18. Christian Day is pretty awesome, and his book is one of the most valuable ones in my library. I've seen many people rip on him for his clothing, the makeup, or his communication style when they've never had a single conversation in text or voice with him. I value my friendship with him because he's so full of life and unafraid to live out loud at his own volume setting. He's also really good dinner company, if you ever get the opportunity.

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    1. hah! Why thank you! I try to have fun with everything I do, even if I'm being bitchy, which I try not to be if unprovoked. :-D

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    2. I'm very excited to read the book, Alan. I remember when you recommended it and I was less than willing to even take a look *cough, cough.* But better late than ignorant, right?

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  19. Oh Magaly, what an honor to be given this precious award by you, who is absolutely gorgeous, and amazing, and so NOT a hypocrite! You are one of the boldest, free-spirited witchy goddesses I have ever met, and am proud to say so.

    I will conjure something as lovely and heartwarming as I can in the very near future that will hopefully prove deserving of such a precious gift. My love to you sweetie. Mina

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    1. I can't wait to read all your sweetness. I've been thinking so much about you, and about King (yes, I've claimed him). I can't wait until you read the entire Thorn in Red web serial. I think you will love it ;-)

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  20. That picture is so darn cute! I love it!! Congrats on the award my friend ;o) Thank you for awarding me ;o) Heartwarming? I have told you my story already! LOL! Hugs ;o)

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    1. I just giggled, Stacy. I was sharing some bits of your sweet story with William and he shares my opinion *wink, wink*

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  21. Love that tiny frog, how cute! I don't know much about Christian myself, but I hear that people either love him or hate him LOL. I have never read his books or followed him in any way. All I know is that he is up there in the witchy community, he's an author, and he dresses rather eccentric (which I kinda like LOL), other than that, I know zilch. I gotta love your honesty, but don't grit and grind your teeth too much, dear Magaly, I don't want you damaging your beautiful teeth and jaw! TMJ is not fun, just saying. <3

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    1. No more teeth grinding then. I like my teeth, too ;-D

      My Piano Man took that pic while we were frog watching with the Little Princess. They were everywhere, we have lots of pics of them on our hands, our clothes (on berries lol), they are too cute indeed.

      Christian is a bit of riot. And I think that out all this mess, having realized that he's not a bad person (and that I have as many issues as the next person) is one of the things I've gained.

      Life chooses to teach her lessons in the most strangest of ways.

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  22. That frog is darling!Looking ourselves in the face and acknowledging what is there is hard. Accepting our ugly bits along with our beautiful bits is harder still. Loving ourselves not in spite of, but BECAUSE of all of our bits is perhaps the hardest of all. Even those of us who abhor hypocrisy can be guilty of it sometimes. We should still hug the stuffing out of ourselves. Many Happies are flitting around me and seem to enjoy smacking the Unhappies in the head with big sticks...

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    1. May the Universe bless the Happies and their big anti-Unhappies' stick!

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  23. Magaly,

    It is nice to read you blog again. I had you on my subscription list when Google Reader was around but when it died I lost my lists.

    I also have a bad taste for Christian Day but it is not because I have met or talked with him. It was from a third party. I know, I know, bad bad bad. I am going to give him a try based on your blog and we shall see what we shall see.

    Blessings.

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    1. I'm pretty sure I was influenced by lots of that as well. But nothing works better than experience, right. Look, live and see ;-)

      Welcome back!

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