The following is an email I received after I replied to Fire Lyte’s replies on Eliora’s response to Fire Lyte’s article (say that 13 times fast!): “I have to say this. I hope you don’t take it the wrong way. It feels to me that you had Eliora make a huge deal about nothing. Problems like this are solved behind closed doors. They [Christians] already think that they have reasons to hate us. Why show ourselves bickering like baboons in front of them? This is not the right way to get readers to your blog, Ms. Guerrero. Shame on you!”
I will keep this short, and say that I don’t appreciate anyone who thinks that I use my friends or their feelings for what someone’s screwed up mind perceives to be my own gain. That is despicable. But there is a Spanish saying which suggests that “El león juzga por su condición.” Meaning that the lion judges others in accordance to what it thinks about itself. Well, to the person who judged me to be a heartless attention-seeker pile of dung, I have to say this: “It must suck to be you.”
To everyone else, I wish to offer a bit of Headology a la Magaly. This was inspired by the title of this post (a comment left by Judy) and by the words of my Knight Writer (Terry Pratchett) in Maskerade: “Granny Weatherwax… practiced headology… And although there may be some superficial similarities between a psychiatrist and a headologist, there is a huge practical difference. A psychiatrist, dealing with a man who fears he is being followed by a huge and terrible monster, will endeavor to convince him that monsters don’t exist. Granny Weatherwax would simply give him a chair to stand on and a very heavy stick.”
Headology (a la Magaly)
The psychiatrist commits a great disservice when trying to convince the man that the monster doesn’t exist. It might exist only in the man’s head, and that doesn’t make the situation less scary or less real. I admire Granny’s methods, for I am a practical Witch, but a man with a chair and a stick is a time bomb waiting to explode in the face of anyone who startles him—monster or not.
I believe that an interdisciplinary treatment might work best. Why not give the man the chair and the stick (so that he can feel safe), while we use our psychiatric prowess to talk to him? To explain to the man that we can’t quite see his monster, but that maybe he could describe it for us.
Intelligent discussion might let the headologist/psychiatrist combo see that it was not that man’s monster didn’t exist, but that it looked different from their own monster. The man, on his part, might learn that it wasn’t that the headologist/psychiatrist combo was blind, but that they couldn’t see through his eyes, his babbling, his cursing, his name-calling, or his screaming about monsters.
Oops! I guess I lied. It wasn’t that short after all. But I’m not sorry; for the more we talk the better we understand each other. And that, my Wicked Darlings, is the reason why I invited Eliora to use her words at Pagan Culture: I enjoy a topic that “makes people use their brains.” What about you, my Luvs, how would you approach the man’s monster?Share |