On Bride, AlmaMia, and the Best Wicked Darlings in the Universe


Bride and Husband to Be have postponed their wedding… It’s a good thing. No, it’s a GREAT thing! They have decided to go to the Virgin Islands for a week (a friend of his is letting them use their place); they will attend couples’ counseling when they return home, and will resume the wedding planning after that. She is a bit upset (at me, at herself, and at her mom who already started complaining about the possibility of not having a huge wedding), but she said that she “won’t lose [her] man to a party.”

I can’t describe how proud I am of my friend. That’s nonsense, I’m a writer, of course I can describe it: I want to pick her up, spin her around, and tell her that everything will be as it should. And that if in 10 years she realizes that in order to be happy she must have the $30,000 wedding, I will pay for it myself… if I have the money *cough, cough*.

A decade or so ago, while we were in the Marine Corps, I had to drag (no hyperbole) Bride out of a North Carolina dealership to keep her from leasing a Mustang convertible that would have cost more than two thirds of her monthly income. She didn’t talk to me for a week. Actually, she cursed me out a few times and told me to stop treating her like a child, but I don’t think that counts as talking. Then, a month later, we sat together and worked on her budget. She bought a red Honda Civic, which I had the privilege of naming MOW (for Morrigan on Wheels), after beating Bride in a game of pool—I suck a pool, by the way.  

On AlmaMiaAlmaMia Cienfuegos’ short story is free today (until 11:59pm PST) on Kindle. I told a few friends about it… and wow, the information was everywhere in a matter of minutes. You are amazing, and I feel like the luckiest of all wicked witchy writers. I can’t wait to read your reviews, suggestions, and comments about the reading. I will consume your reactions like mind and heart fuel as I continue to write AlmaMia’s first novel.

The Best Wicked Darlings in the Universe… When I posted “She Who Keeps Silence While a Friend Commits an Act of Idiocy Is No Friend at All,” asking everyone to offer guidance to a friend who I thought was making a mistake, I expected a few well-thought out responses from the same 5 people who always take the time to that at Pagan Culture. I’m an Aries, so I tend to get pissed off when I’m wrong. Yet, more than 40 people answered the call, proving me wrong beyond my expectations. Being wrong has never felt so good. I am happy to have you in my life, my Wicked Luvs, and I think that after Bride stops being mildly angry with me, she will be extra happy, too ;-)

image by Sergey Ivanov, via
“Having friends and meaningful relationships is arguably one of the most important keys to happiness in life.” — Chris Nolan, in The Change Blog, and I believe every word ;-)


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40 comments:

  1. I love you. That is all.

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  2. Hmm...I'm a bit tweeked at Brides' Mom as well. Hope they have fun on their vacation!

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    1. I don't get that lady, either. I'm glad they are going away for a while...

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  3. I'm glad they took all our advice to heart and I hope they have a wonderful vacation.

    FYI, A post is up on my blog about your book. I also downloaded it. When I get the chance I'll review it. Love and hugs to you darlin. I'm sure Bride will come around when she's ready. Sometimes hurt pride takes a bit longer to mend.

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    1. I'm glad, too. I'm leaning towards thinking that she asked for advice because she needed a little push.

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  4. I posted your AlmaMia link in the readers club :D...just incase you hadn't.
    Glad Bride has taken a step back to reflect...even if she does turn round and book the crazy wedding anyway :D XXX

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    1. You are too sweet, thanks a bunch ;-)

      I told her the same, that I'm happy, happy, happy she is thinking about it, but whatever her decision happens to be in the end, I will be right there to deal with the dress and her veil ;-)

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  5. Glad to hear Bride is rethinking her haste and wow, a vacation in the Virgin Islands! I hope they have an amazing time!

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    1. I was going to ask if they could take me in the suitcase or something, but that might be a bit much ;-)

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  6. You deserve all the love blogwise and real world wise!
    I now have your book on my phone! I am so happy!!!

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    1. Well, gracias, my friend. I like to think that. I hope you enjoy your reading, just don't read it aloud to the little goddess in your belly ;-)

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  7. time, temperance and the tropics....yea that sounds good.
    And I'm off to read AlmaMia

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    1. I, too, want some "time, temperature and the tropics!"

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  8. Love to you! You are awesome, and I hope AlmaMia travels far and wide <3

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  9. How were you wrong? You just wanted them to reconsider their choices ... make choices that were more in keeping with their means ... and what would contribute the most to their future happiness. I just re-read all the comments and it seems like everyone agreed with you, in one form or another ... did I mis-read everything? Hmmmmm .... perhaps I have encountered "Reading Dementia"?

    I am very happy to hear they have put things on hold, are committing to some counseling and are taking the time to consider what is really best for them as a married couple. Hey, spending that time on the Virgin Islands ain't shabby either!

    Personally, I think Bride and Husband To Be are very lucky to have a friend like you! An honest friend, a friend who truly cares. Friends like you are very rare ... stay the way you are Magaly ... you are a "True" friend.

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    1. I meant that I wrong to think that only a few people would reply. I should have known that weddings are very serious events in people's lives and many would want to help. No "Reading Dementia" lol

      I'm very happy for them, too. I was on the phone with her for a while, today, and she is all excited about her trip to the Virgin Islands.

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    1. I am, too. I think a bit of time will put her in a place where she will make a decision she will be happy and not leave her in the poor house.

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  11. I'm not happy that Bride postponed her weeding, but I'm glad that she and her Husband be will rationally look at their lives...and first, soak themselves in wonderful vacations :)
    Have a happy day, Magaly!

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    1. I understand why you are not happy about it. I, too, wish that she could come to a conclusion that doesn't leave her in trouble without having to wait. But I'm happy because I believe time will put her in a better place. Even if she decides to spend all the money, at least she got to really, really, really think about it.

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  12. Darling Witch, I'm surprised that you are surprised by the response to your Calling. When the Witch calls, her Sisters come running!
    Bride will get over being miffed at you, and will enjoy some away time with Groom, and then hopefully she will come back and stand up to her mother. I want to stand up to her for Bride! Bride and Groom are lucky to have a friend like you who cares enough to piss her off with the truth. Never take her for granted, Bride. Wishing them many years of joy...whether there is a piece of paper that binds them or the most important thing of all...their own love for each other.

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    1. I've been praying that she'll be back and not have to stand up to her mother. I don't know what's wrong with that woman, why would any parent want her child to go into debt?

      And I guess I should remember I have witchy sisters ;-)

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  13. Ha ha, Bride is coming to her senses? I hope so but her dis-ease is not always easily cured. Anyway, you've been a fine friend, an up front friend I'd say. And it is probably good for you at this point to be focussed outward. Thinking of you, Magaly!

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    1. You are always so wise, Francie. Someone asked me, "How can you blog or write at all during this time in your life?" I told her that if I didn't do this, then I wouldn't do anything at all. Just stay in bed all day, feeling sorry for myself, wondering (hopelessly) how things could have been better.

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  14. No one want to hear.."you can't do that"...no one. So hats off to good friends that do tell, with love of course.
    Hugs
    SueAnn

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    1. Indeed, especially when we kind of know already.

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  15. Crap I've misses something, will be read posts this weekend, but from someone who got married in a New Orleans courthouse with 2 strangers rustled up from the office workers on lunch break and no ring dressed in jeans and doc martins and a sweater I purchased because I was frozen, I married the man I loved, still with him, still love him, romance and love can never be equated to the size of a wedding... If you got the 'love' part that's what's worth a fortune

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    1. I can see you and your handsome surfer with necks full of beads and grinning like happy loons ;-)

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  16. PS Now I'm finishing a painting ;)

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    1. I have a new painting on my desktop ;-)

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  17. So happy they are postponing the wedding ;o) If they are truly in love, they will be fine ;o) I agree about friends! Yeh to friends ;o) Big Hugs ;o) ( I will teach you Ukrainian Dancing any day! )

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    1. I'm really happy, too. I have a very strong feeling that it will be for the best. I can't wait to see how she will make things much, much, much better. Bride is super creative and she has tons of creative people who love her, and who I know would want to help.

      Yay, dancing!

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  18. Glad to hear that Bride is slowing down a bit. :)

    And MOW...if you want to name my first car, be my guest. That is a seriously awesome name.

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    1. I can't wait for you to get your first car, so that we can have a naming party ;-)

      My first car's name was Rusty--yes, the name speaks of his outer personality lol

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  19. We spent 5 grand on our wedding....and it didn't make it less beautiful or meaningful. We are having troubles now....and spending more on the union wouldn't have made it stronger either.

    A wedding is a celebration of Love, not the "show" to prove to everyone else that it is true.

    You are a good friend to have the fortitude to help someone who doesn't appreciate it at the time :)

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    1. I hope you guys can work through the trouble soon. It hurts when things get complicated between people who love each other--there can be so much pain. I'm closing my eyes and hoping you guys can get back to a really good place together, so that you can tell us all about it and show us a bunch of smiling pictures.

      I'm sending you hugs, love and light, my friend.

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  20. The reviews are good on AlmaMia Cienfuegos!! Congratulations...unfortunately I don't find it on Smashwords and I don't use a Kindle...I'll get it another time...Since I've read a bunch already, I know it's good and look forward to your next...If you need more proofreading, let me know...

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    1. Proofreaders are a blessing, so I will definitely let you know ;-)

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