He Doesn’t Walk with Us, but His Soul Lives On


his Flesh and Blood
his Love and Soul

My little brother, Pabelo to his family, La Greca to friends he made after he declared to the world that he was a grown man (at about 13-years-old), and Gregory Guerrero Martínez to all of us, left the physical world yesterday morning.

His wife is heartbroken, his parents are missing a piece of their soul, his siblings bleed tears, his friends are inconsolable and furious at a world that took my little brother away ten days before his 27th birthday.

This morning, I woke up to over 400 messages; from family, from friends, from acquaintances, from good people who are strangers to me, but who loved my brother. Everyone wants to offer their condolences—thank you for that—many want information… This post deals with the latter.

I can’t answer each message personally, there are too many and just one of me. My big brother and I have decided to create a webpage to share information as it comes to us. At the moment, I’m trying to take care of the much too unwanted paperwork and getting his affairs in order.

The webpage will be created tonight, after I take care of things with the Medical Examiner. I will place a link on Pabelo’s Facebook page, that way everyone will have access to it. I apologize for not answering every message personally, but I just can’t.

Thank you for loving my brother, and for remembering the beauty of his heart and the light of his soul.

P. S. I know Pabelo knew people from many nations, so I’ve placed a translation button on this blog. There will also be one in the webpage that will be created tonight. Again, thanks for supporting his memory and for remembering his goodness.
 I know your soul is dancing in paradise, but I miss you anyway…

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109 comments:

  1. Oh Magaly I am so terribly sorry. I hope there is some comfort in knowing that your brother will always be with you, not physically but spiritually.

    Blessings
    Sue

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    1. We have my niece, my brother's smile, and a world of memories...

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  2. Oh Magaly, I am so very sorry for you and your families loss. There are no words to make it better but ((((((hugs)))))))) anyway. Oma Linda

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    1. Thanks for the hugs. They'll keep us warm.

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  3. Oh honey!!!! I am so very sorry for your loss. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. No words can help at a time like this.. just love.

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    1. Love is always balm for the soul.

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  4. Sending love and strength your way. So very sorry for your loss.

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    1. Receiving them with arms wide opened.

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  5. Sending you love and strength during this time. <3

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  6. Magaly, I'm so sorry to hear about this loss -- there's nothing in the world like siblings. I'm wishing you peace and reflection on the wonderful memories of your brother and what he brought to your life, and still brings.

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    1. The loss has been hitting me by stages. Today, I was going through his things, talking to his wife, looking at pictures of his daughter... it hurts to think about the fact that she will never know him like I did. But we'll keep him alive for her.

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  7. Sweetie! I'm so sorry that you have lost your brother! Sending you love and light and lighting a candle in honor of your brother.

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    1. May your light guide his way...

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  8. *Am crying tears for the sadness in your heart* My his path be strewn with sweet scented flowers, and may he ever be surrounded by smiles and welcoming hearts. Blessed Be. XXX

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    1. Loving hearts will lift his soul...

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  9. Oh sweetheart... I'm so very sorry. I can't imagine how much you're hurting right now. Sending you and your family love and light. <3

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    1. It feels unreal, and then too real too fast... it's hard to imagine even when one is the one feeling it.

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  10. I'm sorry for your loss. :(

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  11. My dearest Magaly! Hugs and love and many condolences to you and your beloved family. The photos you share here of your brother show he was an amazing, loving person. Blessings to you, sweetie.

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    1. He was amazing trouble and happiness made flesh. He loved with his eyes closed. Thanks for the blessings.

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  12. I am so sorry for your loss Magagly... Sending you much love and keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

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  13. There are just no words at a time like this. Holding you in my thoughts as you process everything. So much love to you and your family, dearest Magaly. xoxo

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    1. Warm thoughts are always appreciated.

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  14. Dearest Magaly, sending you all much omfort, love, and healing. No words can express... {{{HUGE HUGS}}}

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  15. Sorry and lots of hugs...

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  16. Oh, Magaly! I'm so sorry for your loss.. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending love and light to you, darling *hugs*

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  17. So sorry, Magaly. Thinking of you. Hugs from me too.

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  18. I am so very sorry to hear this Magaly.. Many, many loving thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

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    1. May the prayers be food for his soul...

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  19. Oh no Magaly, I'm so sorry. Losing a loved one is to big and hard for words sometimes. It's good to hear that you and your family have so many people rallying around you at this difficult time.

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    1. Today, someone told me that "Funerals and weddings show the people you can count on." I've been counting a lot. We are a lucky family.

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  20. so sorry for your loss. prayers your way my friend

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  21. I'm sorry to hear this tragic news, Magaly. From the photos, it is clear that he had a beautiful smile like you. Wishing you and your family all the best at this difficult time.

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    1. We have taken bits of our father's smile. And his daughter some of my brother's. He lives in her and in us...

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  22. Oh Magaly!!! I am so sorry. My condolences to you and your family.

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  23. Oh wow, I'm so sorry. I don't even know what to say.

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    1. Knowing that you are thinking about us is enough, Sarita. Thank you.

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  24. I am extremely sorry for your loss - which is a loss for the world also. May His soul rest in heavens. Here is what we say in my native language when we take the last goodbye from a departed:

    Nyugodjék békében. Isten nyugosztalja. Részvétem.

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  25. I am so sorry! There are just no words! Wishes of peace to your family and all those who loved him!

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    1. "Wishes of peace" for me and mine sound perfect.

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  26. So, so sorry....words cannot express how much...

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  27. Oh Mags. I am so sorry, dear heart. Love and healing to you and your family and those who loved him. *Hugs*

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  28. So sorry for your loss, Magaly.

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  29. These are beautiful images you have posted in tribute of your gorgeous brother. I am so sorry, so, so sorry Magaly, that he is no longer here for his family and friends who obviously loved him and will miss him enormously. My heart is with you sweet woman, I will say a prayer for all xoxox

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    1. He would have smiled at you, and probably flirted with you and asked you to dance if you called he heard you calling him gorgeous. I bet he is grinning right now...

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  30. So very sorry for your loss...

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  31. I am so sorry Magaly! So very sorry! I will light a candle for your family's loss! I am sending a big hug your way!

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  32. I love the photos you posted!

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    1. The one with his baby girl is my favorite picture of him.

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  33. My heart aches for your loss. May the Goddess hold you gently.

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    1. She has been good these days. Keeping my brother's child in my mind, reminding me that it is okay to feel cheated on his behalf, making sure I remember what matters...

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  34. I'm still coping with the loss of my Mom, so believe me Magaly, I am so sorry for your loss! My heart and prayers are with you and your family.

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    1. I thought of you, today. I kept on tripping over everything... finding everything more difficult than usual... I remember how things went when your mom left this world. How it hurt you--still does--but you took it one day at the time. I'll follow your lead, my witchy friend.

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  35. Anonymous3/01/2013

    Pabelo, I will always remember our time together!
    Ryan A. Kohrig

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    1. He is probably throwing some dominoes your way...

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  36. My heart hurts for you and your family. I will light a candle for your forever young brother and his wife and family.

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    1. "forever young" that gives me a good feeling in my heart.

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  37. That beautiful smile is breaking my heart - my thoughts are with you all.

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    1. Every time I look at his smile, I wonder if he is really gone. So much life in a single expression...

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  38. Magaly I am very sorry for yours and your family's loss of such a great human being, brother, son, husband and father.....
    Your are all in my thoughts and my heart.....

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  39. Oh my... I am so very, very sorry. Love and peace to you and all who knew him~♥

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    1. We need the peace... and thank you endlessly for the love.

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  40. Beautiful Magaly, I am so sorry for your sorrow. I am holding you gently in my heart and thoughts. I send my love and light to surround you and all who loved him. <3

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    1. I will relax in your embrace.

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  41. *Hugs* & prayers for you and yours.

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  42. So sorry for such a loss as this! Too soon for sure.
    Gentle hugs dear one...gentle hugs
    SueAnn

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  43. Oh My Goddess. Life just doesn't give a damn, does it? I'm so sorry for this loss. As the clouds roll in today over our tiny island I know they will weep heavy tears for your loss. I will light a candle today for your brother. Sending you strength right now and healing when you're ready for it. Love to you, darling Witch.

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    1. May the cloud's tears cleanse his soul and his way...

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  44. My deepest condolences to you and your family, my friend. The pics you have posted clearly show those of us who had never actually met him what a belo9ved soul he was and will always be!

    Hugs to you,

    Kim

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    1. He was a bundle of love, trouble, and smiles. You couldn't help loving him, even when he drove you insane.

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  45. Magaly, so sorry for your loss. I'm sending you light and healing thoughts.

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    1. Thanks for the light and the healing thoughts, Edie. Right now, is what we need most.

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  46. My heart was so very saddened when I read of your loss. These past two years too many have been taken from my family as well, it hurts and words never seem adequate when you first learn that someone you love dearly is no longer here, you will no longer be able to be with or enjoy their uniqueness in your earthly life ... a great hole is left, frailty of life is realized.

    I don't know who wrote the following little verse, but it sums up how I feel ....

    The one's we love don't go away,
    They walk beside us every day,
    Unseen, unheard but always near,
    Still loved, still missed and very dear.

    My Dad passed in around 1984 ... but there are times when his presence is so strong I can actually see and feel him walking across my front porch and knocking on my door. And always, I get up and answer the door ... he is not there but something about him is.

    Your brother will always be with you.

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    1. Everything is so fresh that I see him everywhere. I don't think I will ever feel like he is gone, he was too bright for that. I know pain dulls, and memories set, but I feel that he will be around for always... walking in front of doors, warming thoughts, smiling...

      Thanks so much for that poem, it is perfect.

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    2. Everything that is so fresh to you now, will remain .... the pain will dull and the memories will end at that time that he left (but none of the memories leading up to that moment will ever disappear) ... he will ALWAYS be there inside of and with you. That is the true miracle of love ... it never ends ... it always remains ...

      Take care and know you are loved my many Magaly.

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    3. We don't have him, but we'll always have who he was.

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  47. It's the first time I saw your brother...He looks so bright, cheerful and kind...
    I don't understand why God lets such people go...
    Sorry for your terrible loss once again.

    We are here and there for you, though in different countries.
    Hugs!!!

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    1. Maybe the universe just wants to reclaim their essence to add it to bigger and greater things. Or maybe life just happens... and ends. I'm grateful for the good times. Thanks for the hugs.

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  48. Anonymous3/04/2013

    pavelo para mi fue un gran amigo , tenia un corazon grandicimo y siempre que le contabas mis tonteria lo unico ke hacia era sonrreir, jamas me juzgaba por mis errore y le encantaba darme consejos era como su hermanita pekeña, nuestros destinos se separaron a raiz que me vine a vivir a españa y despues de 6 años sin saber nada de el nos volvimos a reecontrar a traves de facebook hace apenas 4 meses . lo voy a hechar muchisimo de menos , que dios te tenga a su lado en el cielo . rezo mucho por ti.. y mucho animo para su familia

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  49. Omg, Magaly. I'm so sorry. :( I sent you a text. I'm with you in spirit, I will send you my strength. <3

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    1. Thanks, LJ. I'm behind on all my personal email/text and everything about me reading *sigh* Thanks for the strength, we all can use some.

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  50. Swift journey Pabelo! I am so sorry to hear of his young death :( I hope his smiling face comforts you...

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    1. Every time things get extra tough, I look at his pictures, think of his voice, his laughter and know he is in a good place, probably chuckling at the fact that the current events (the way we are dealing with his departure as a whole) is making me so mad.

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  51. Only got around to reading here now... I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your brother's family and friends...

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    1. Thanks, Diandra. We are doing better, all of us. I'm surprised... and grateful.

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  52. I'm sorry to read that your brother was taken from his family so young. Sad sad

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    1. I've been telling myself that he believed in eternal life. I hope those beliefs took him to where his soul wished. And that he is eternally dancing, and smiling ;-)

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  53. Im truly sorry for your loss. May the Gods keep you safe on your journey of grief & bless your brother on his journey through the Summerlands

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