Team Magaly


I’ve met quite a few people who aren’t worth the bile that rushes to my throat when I think about how much their behavior disgust me. And I know individuals who make me proud to be part of the human race. The former, I dispose of faster than I would of putrid trash, and the latter I keep among the most precious of my treasures.

And then They Haunt You…, a post about why I went to the Midwest, seems to have dragged many members of the unworthy vile group out of the trenches. There have been insulting emails, smartass texts, filthy proposals… You name me, and some idiot has done it in the past few days. Some of the messages have been so shocking (and revolting) that I’ve forwarded them to one (or three) of my writer friends in case they ever have trouble coming up with particularly nasty characters—I refuse to share them here because their negativity might taint Pagan Culture.

One of the friends with whom I shared, asked me, “How can you stand it without exploding, falling apart, or breaking someone’s face?”

I laughed, and told him, “It’s rather easy, Luv. Rot can’t touch your life, if you don’t care about the carcass spewing the twaddle (Twaddle is my latest favorite word, by the way. It sounds so much like twa… well, you know ;-).”

However, the fact that I pay no attention to the judgments of people who mean nothing to me, is not the only thing that keeps me smiling at the sun and sleeping when the moon caresses the night. Much of my strength comes from having the best dad in the world and the most wonderful friends anyone can wish for.

I’m lucky. The other day, I told one of my dearest girlfriends just how much. We were laughing (after I shared some of the ugly emails and some good ones, too). The bad ones were really bad, but the good ones better. Here are a few:
“Even though I supported you through your decisions, I must admit I did prefer The Piano Man!!” And,

“You know I was Team Piano Man all along [it’s true, he told me], but you needed me to stand by you not to point out what I believed was wrong. But now that all is well, I confess that I’ve never trusted werewolves.” And,

“Ok I’m going to be honest because I know you love that, I know you needed… closure, and I have to say I’m kinda glad you got closure… shit… I don’t mean that the way it sounds, I want you to be all happy and loved up because you are such a beautiful soul Maggie, but you NOT being in NYC just doesn’t sit right for me. You are my NY… I love you so much, and I know you will be happy back in the city, you are a bright light in many people’s darkness…” And,
           
“I thought of what we were talking about, and I’m team Magaly and what makes you happy and safe. I think that had I met Jacob… I would have liked him as much as love [the Piano Man]. I never thought that leaving NY was a mistake, especially since you were seeking your heart. You are brave, strong and loving. I don’t want you to settle, you weren’t meant to. I wouldn’t want you to… fuck everyone else and what opinions they have. Just do what makes you happy. I’ll drop whatever to unpack or pack for you at any time. Shit, if you decide to pack up and move into a commune, I wouldn’t love you or support you any less. You are mi chica (my girl).”

I’ve been smiling a lot. It is wonderful to see how my friends, most of my family, and the Wickedest of my Darlings have put their hearts into helping me through a very difficult situation. I’m proud of the people around me. You’ve given me so much that a simple ‘thanks’ doesn’t feel like it can be enough. No worries, though; for I, too, will put my heart into showing you just how grateful and blessed I feel… Until then, I offer you that simple “Thanks a bunch, my Wicked Luvs!” and the happy smile you’ve planted in my soul.  
I’m very shiny… and toothy ;-) 

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  1. Aww Maggie, closure is a must in these situations, I love your bright light keep smiling sweetie xxx

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    1. I'm feeding in the strength of our smile.

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  2. *hugs* I'm in the Noneya group...noneya business...it's not for me to decide what you do, where you live or who you date...I'm just an observer here and only want you to be happy.

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    1. People some times just don't get it. You'd think that they would spend their time trying to make sense of their own lives, while leaving others to do the same. People are weird...

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  3. Why would anyone send you a nasty comment? I mean - first of all, it is none of their business. Second, what do they think they can achieve with this?

    "Surely now she sees her wicked ways and will repent."
    "I made her feel really bad today, now I am satisfied."
    "How can she ever be happy without knowing that I am not happy with the way she lives her life?"

    *???*

    Honestly, they amaze me. There are so many better things they could be doing with their time. Plan to take over the world, kick a dog (preferably Cerberus, that would teach them), put their head in a wasp's nest...

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    1. Seriously Diandra??? Is that what one of them wrote to her!!!! That is beyond disgusting...that is damn curse worthy!!!!

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    2. Diandra, you've always have the power to make me laugh. Thank you!

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  4. Shiny, definitely! Toothy in a good way! ha ha. Anyway spring and rebirth are just around the corner (which is what you are all about right now) so I'm looking forward to your new adventures!

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    1. Rebirth, changes, ends and beginnings... Nature is stretching, reclaiming, and transforming energies. I'll walk with Her.

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  5. Even if I live to be 110, I will never figure out what makes people think they have any right to spew nastiness about someone's life choices at them. Particularly when those life choices have no bearing whatsoever on their own lives.

    I blame reality tv! Or a small penis. Or an unsatisfactory sex life. You know, normal things. ;)

    So, fuck all that noise. Team Magaly FTW! Now go shine on, pretty girl.

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    1. I think must of them truly believe they are doing the right thing. Hopefully one of these days they will open their eyes and say hello to reality.

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  6. I'm astounded that people would send you nasty emails about how you conduct your life. It's none of their business first of all. And second, well, it's none of their fucking business.

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    1. If only... until then, they can at least make good material to study.

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  7. Such foolishness on some peoples' parts! I'm with Diandra. Onwards with the unpacking & Placing of Stuff.

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    1. They are kind of amusing in a nasty sort of way, aren't they?

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  8. Hey, it is what it is..........people that is. Everyone else has said it so well, WTF does it enhance in someone's life to be mean and ugly to another human? If you don't let it get you down and have a fit about it....they not only lose but also it "irks their chicken" so they move on to the next person they think they can hurt. It's nothing personal to you....their just assholes and that's on them.
    But you know that and shine and sparkle and continue to amaze with your strong, direct, loving manner and mode of living. And that does make you a target for those who live without cajones. tee hee on them
    When you want someone's opinion, it is a blessing, a honor given to them, a covenant between you and someone else. All the rest is chaff to be thrown to the wind.
    As you already know I have been Team Magaly since the first blessing we shared and always will be no matter what.
    Smooches and Squoozes, Oma Linda

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    1. May the wind clean the silliness.

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  9. I apologies for the stupidity of some of my brothers and sisters, some just never learn. I wish you peace and adventure in your old/new home. N.Y. rocks, Im sure you wont go bored and you'll move just along. Bless it be.

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    1. You are too sweet. Be blessed, right back.

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  10. Cheerful hugs from a long-time supporter.

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  11. You took me at some surprise when I saw that you had moved back to NYC. So surprised I had to read your post twice just to make sure I really was reading it correctly. I must admit my first thought was a bit selfish. I thought, "Who got custody of Mr. Blue and Mrs. Pink?" lol

    Whatever you do with your life, I just want you to be happy. It doesn't matter what choices I would make, because I am not living your life.

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    1. Mr. Blue and Mrs. Pink are in my grenade box ready to join the altar. I'm glad I waited to consecrate them.

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  12. What did I miss.....Who would just a thing and why.I may not know you in person but from Facebook and your blog I just love you. You are a very bright soul and talented writer. I have not seen you write one nasty thing about others so to hear that others are being nasty to you that is well....upsetting. I love how you said that if you don't care about the rot and the carcass they they basically can't hurt you. That is awesome. :) Well I am for TEAM MAGGIE. :)

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  13. ETA, how rude that people are sending you those horrible messages. I think the internet makes it easier for people to forget their manners.

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    1. I wish they had the balls/ovaries to say it publicly, that way everybody could comment on it, and maybe they would see that I'm not the only one who thinks they are nuts.

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  14. *shaking my head at the utter idiocy of some people* Did you ask for their opinion? I doubt it....you know exactly where I stand sweetheart...in front of you, ready to beat the bejeeses out of those idiots with my gnarly old F**ckass walking stick!!!! :D XXX

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    1. Idiocy with a keyboard creeps online... I'm sure Confucius thought that.

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  15. Here's the thing Magaly (this might be a long comment, and I know I've said this before); since you share so much of yourself, your life, your choices, your loves, your sex, your everything - people will feel like it's ok to comment and judge you. I am not condoning it, just pointing out the obvious of this stupid world.

    Your crazy faith is lovely, but I have none of that. I know that most people will take any chance to step on others, just to feel better about themselves. When I see people like you, shining through, I have so many emotions. Surprise, haha-gumption-you-go-girl, that's-gonna-be-hard and fuck-yeah! - but also that boring realistic part: Yes, you took a crazy chance, you hurt some people and it was maybe never gonna work out. You might have had to expect some outfall.

    I can't imagine feeling like chastizing and spewing bile on someone, just for living their life (on-line). Sure, if someone posts horrible and provocative pieces, but just sharing their life experiences? But, BUT: I am not surprised that there are LOTS of idiots out there ready to beat you down.

    And it might be weird, but I like you comparing me to your dad :)

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    1. Oh, I don't mind the comments at all. I just wish they would leave it at the blog, so that everybody can join the conversation. I want them to say something and defend it--I enjoy a good argument. The thing with this individuals is that they something, you try to get them to explain their reasons, but they get scared and run for the hills. Opinions without explanations are just noise.

      Oh, it's not weird at all, I would like it, too. He is amazing.

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  16. You have to live your life, child. I think you are a lot braver than I. Still, it's a twisted path we dance along, isn't it?

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    1. Sometimes you need space to practice your better moves ;-)

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  17. Anonymous2/28/2013

    It's amazing to read you're body of work and see the personal and professional growth. I'm proud of you, Magaly ;-)

    Ryan A. K

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    1. Well, thank you, señor Kohrig.

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  18. Smiling back at you, dear Magaly! (I really do, as I look at my computer screen). I wish we would meet some day.

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    1. Smiles are contagious. I'm needing many these days, so thank you ;-)

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  19. Ever journey we take is made so much richer by hand holding and encouraging words by those who love you.
    Hugs
    SueAnn

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    1. And so many warm hands... none sticky or cold to the touch. Lucky...

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  20. Magaly, I am so sorry!! You don't deserve this! Some people are assholes and I think assholes is too nice of a word!! I love your toothy, shiny picture ;o)

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    1. I'm just tranquil because I know they have to live with looking at themselves in the mirror every day. That has to be a very ugly sight.

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  21. Now I want to read some of those bad emails. I'm horrible I know. You did what you needed to do and I have to agree you not being in NY didn't sit right with me either.

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    1. Hey, I might send you some... for research.

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  22. I've walked alone too many times in this world that my heart sings because you have the strength and support of friends and family. There will always be fools to guard against, so bravo to you for finding the happier side of this (and so many other) situations!
    ♥Sharon

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    1. The brighter side is always nicer to walk than the one obscured by the nastiness of others, even if the edges are jagged.

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  23. Everyone is given one life to live.....not a million to butt into.

    You do what feels right for you...period.

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  24. I used to get toxic letters from my mother-in-law, I kept them, piled them up, one day - about 5 years ago, I had c.15 years of poison pen letters almost all of them written on yellow paper, in my cupboard, I saw them everyday, validation of the what a 2 faced nasty evil bitch this woman was... oh how my heart would sink when I saw that yellow envelope in the mail box... anyway, ONE DAY... my older sister was visiting & I showed her this collection of signed spite... she read them all, then she asked... "Shelle why do you keep them?" and I answered, because no one would believe it unless I have proof, so others would eventually realise the face & stories she presented to them were bullshit & lies, this exposes her...
    My sister said...
    "Throw them away"
    "Why?" I asked (this was my coveted collection of 'proof') and she answered that the woman was mentally unstable, sad & vicious, she is trying to make all around her as miserable as her, and I don't have to prove anything to anyone, everyone who knows me knows I speak the truth, and anyway, my sister read every letter and told me I needed someone to see them, & she saw them, now I should throw them in the trash, because that's what it is, and they won't have any power if they are recognised for what they are... trash. So I did...
    Where am I going with this... I think all those nasty people should exchange email addresses, and feed off & abuse each other you know, like-minded (close-minded?) & all... I think you were right not to share their crap... I think we all don't have to agree with each other's decisions to support one another, I think you learnt something & grew, not that you made a mistake, and I think New York is definitely calling your name to join her :)

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    1. You understand why I don't share these people's names. Most of the emails make me laugh, or want to puke... I read them until I see that they belong in the junk pile. They do belong in the trash.

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  25. That smile says it all...

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