The Witch with the Dragon Tattoo


Every now and then, people volunteer innocent observations that are anything but… I received a comment of the sort sometime around the middle of December. A new reader emailed me, after reading Two Halves of a Dragon’s Heart, and said:
“Lovely Magaly, I mean not to offend, I will make an inquiry because I wish to get to know a brilliant blogger who I just ‘met.’ In your post about envious pagan gods and humans with dragon hearts, you tell everyone how your Pianoman was the best thing that ever happened to you. An individual who helped you heal after a relationship with a man who hurt you and left you broken. Now I read your newest posts, and you tell readers that you are sharing a life of love and pleasure with the same man who stepped all over you. What about your gentle Pianoman? Wasn’t he the other half of your dragon? Maybe my reading skills are not as strong as friends and colleagues have led me to believe.

I hope this innocent inquest doesn’t sour your well-known sweet disposition. I’m just curious about what type of individual I’ve just began to follow. At first examination, I trust you to be an intelligent, loving woman who likes to share her experiences, but reading deeper into your words and actions, I begin to wonder if the veneer of nicely arranged posts are not hiding a girl who has never known her own wants, or the severity of the damage she causes in the lives of the innocents she tramples as she rushes through God’s lands.”

The message made me shake my head and laugh a little at the “I mean not to offend,” bit. I read this person’s words a few times, then I simply answered,
“Unknown Reader (the person didn’t include his or her name) I suspect your friends’ and colleagues’ judgment of your reading skills are more than adequate. I find their analysis of your talents so sound that I would love to know what they have to say about your flair for camouflaging your true intensions under the veil of what you labeled ‘innocent inquest.’ I believe you so capable of deciphering my posts that I won’t insult you by answering your questions—the overt or the covert ones.

I suggest you continue reading Pagan Culture, and when you are ready to take part in the conversation, leave a public comment. I assure you that I—and many of my Wicked Darlings—will be more than delighted to help you understand any of the obvious information your excellent reading skills have chosen to ignore.

Don’t you just dislike cowards, pretenders, and clever idiots who get so high in the fumes of self-delusion that to them reality is just something that happens to other people? Well, I do. For that reason I refuse to let them ruin my day, and I reserve the right to make fun of their attempts at concealed jabs.
 This is for those of you who asked to see my engagement tattoo. 
I would show you the whole thing, but Blogger might take offence if I display my entire worshipable butt ;-)

Feel free to clarify the thoughts of our Unknown Reader. Seriously, my Luvs, give it a go.

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38 comments:

  1. I love your dragon tattoo -- very awesome! I've kicked around this crazy old world long enough to know that when it comes to love, Pascal had it right -- "The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing." That's just how things go.

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    1. Smart man, Pascal. With those brains, I'm pretty sure his interpretation of the post the Unknown Reader is referring to would have been way more substantial.

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  2. hi, Magaly!:) thanks for liking my Rasta doily's colors:)
    what concerns the unknown reader's comment - honestly, sounded to me like a web of neatly chosen words.
    the life is unpredictable.i see that you followed the events and you are happy now.what else to explain? and you don't have to explain anything to anyone. may be people question about this because they feel the same but afraid to admit it?
    I think it's good that audience is interested in your ventures and want to ASK you :)
    Have a great day!
    Anna

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    1. My thoughts exactly. If this person had any real concerns he/she would have spent less time going around the bush, more, he/she would have left the comment on the blog and not felt the need to hide it. I think that the fact that I got no reply says something too.

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    2. “Hunter,” Santa sighed. “Stop thinking. Just go out there and be happy.” - I read from those Santa's Ninja Elves! How simple :)
      thanks for suggesting to read these wonderful stories!

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    3. If only we could all look at life straight in the eye, and say, "Let's live."

      I'm glad you enjoyed the stories, I found them quite wonderful, too ;-)

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  3. Oh good...was feeling a bit cynical whilst reading the opening paragraph of the email. turned to hubby and said "not sure this person's English is as pigeon as they would have us believe". By the second paragraph (opening line) I knew they were faking it.*shakes head in disgust* Was very impressed with your elegant reply :D
    Love the tat too :D XXX

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    1. I always laugh when people think they are so clever, but in reality they just lack the gut to say what they mean. Or, even worse, they know what they are saying is ridiculous, but choose to spew it anyway.

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  4. The tattoo is amazing!!! Wow!! As for your "unknown" commenter...strange...Why is it they feel it is something you need...???? Like an errant child needs direction. And the judgment....sheesh!!
    Hugs
    SUeAnn

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    1. I do love my tattoo. And I'm very happy that after so many years the colors still look awesome, don't they? I agree with you with someone needing direction, or at least a bit of spine.

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  5. I think this is just how blogging works. The more you share of yourself, the more people feel they know you (personally) and have the right to butt in.
    Some people don't seem to understand that things, people and relationships change, evolve or devolve, over time. How weird is that? They are almost certainly the same people who would blame "the other woman" instead of the cheating husband, don't you think? I can't stand conservative fools.

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    1. I don't mind people asking question and raising arguments at the blog. I'm annoyed by people who send anonymous messages and then when you address the issue they don't respond. If they really wanted to join in the conversation, the message would be public or at least they would share their names on email. I don't like pretenders. I really, really, really don't.

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  6. What I would like to know is why people resort to sending emails and making anon comments instead of leaving this stuff for people to see. Do they not know we're just going to out it anyway?

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    1. I believe that's the reason why they leave no name (I wouldn't reveal it if they did). But I'm always wondering why they think that a faceless comment can do anything at all... oh well, if it keeps them happy ;-)

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  7. Magaly I think your unknown blogger takes much on her/him self to question your judgement. Life is never a straight path. We all sometime choose to take detours or swerve direction in our search for happiness. Sometimes the Norns take action without our knowledge and throw all our perfectly made plans in the air and change everything for us in an instant and we are force to follow a different route. If the route you are on gives you happiness then you have to follow it as far as you can.

    As a fairly long time reader I admit I too was surprise when you changed relationships but then as I find relationships an alien concept anyway I gave up long ago trying to understand other peoples. Life gets complicated sometimes but it wouldn't be half as interesting if the road ahead was all straight and smooth, it's the bumps and detours that we gain meaning from.

    Love the dragon tattoo.

    Jx

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    1. Life happens, indeed. And if we aren't willing to put in our own twist to it when circumstances require it, then it won't happen with it. I would not have been suspicious of this person's message if he or she had actually chosen a different post, but if you read Two Halves of a Dragon Heart, you'll see that he or she is just choosing not to see what's there.

      I love my dragon, too ;-)

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  8. Love the tattoo!! It's gorgeous.

    I think whoever this mystery reader is they obviously haven't read well, or bothered to pay attention. I have no doubt that you have found a happiness that is everything. I can read that in every post. You handled the whole thing eloquently as always.

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    1. I agree with you all the way. How can someone read Two Halves of a Dragon Heart and ask such non sense? I would understand if he or she had chosen to read different posts, blogging timelines can make things confusing. But the way things stand, this person has no real foundation.

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  9. Well damn. I was hoping by this time the "Anonymous Reader" would have responded with another round of thinly veiled insults and character aspersions. I've concluded they MUST be southern. Having lived in "The South" for my entire life (well, up to this point), I've never met anyone who could so cunningly craft subtle barbs as a southerner (A skill that we are born with I think). Perhaps our world is shrinking to the point, though, to where it has become a global gift. Your reply is elegant, classy, and more civil than they deserved. I'd have probably replied with my new standard of "suck it". Your dragon is beautiful, and I'm sure the entire canvas is indeed worship material. ;-) Blessings on you in this young 2013.

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    1. When I was stationed in South Carolina, a very nice Southern lady said to me, "You are such as sweet darling. No one would ever think you call yourself a witch. I thank The Lord every time a lost soul rises over her circumstances." I laughed so loud that people stared. And the look on the lady's face just made me laugh louder. Yep, it sure is an art ;-)

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  10. Well, since you asked... My Canadian take is that that type of questioning is up to one's closest friends. I guess there is something about tblogging that makes people feel entitled to ask personal questions. I didn't see the hidden barbs, but it could be my age or geographical location. (I just read Sarah's comment). Love the title of this blog by the way and the tat is bee-yoo-tee-ful!!!

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    1. I'm very open, and I wouldn't mind any kind of question from anyone. I, um... love talking about myself, having you noticed? lol

      And yes, I have a public blog, so I expect (and enjoy) all kinds of questions, for the keep the conversation going. But this was no question, this was someone taking an opportunity to dress up their holier-than-though nastiness. Did you read the post s/he is talking about? Reading that post doesn't leave room for this kind of questioning. Or maybe, I'm just looking too deep into things. If you read the post, and continue to think the same, let me know. I value your opinion, for you are honest and always write from the heart, if you truly feel this person's intentions were pure, I would be willing to look at things from a different angle.

      Life teaches us nothing, if we are not willing to learn from our experiences, right?

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    2. You may be correct, Frankie. Having spent a great deal of time around people who consider themselves "upper crust", I think I've become overly sensitive to innuendo and conversational sub text, perhaps so much so, that I see it when it's not there. Believe me, the fox hunting community (I was a groom in middle burg, va.) has an entire language beneath that which is spoken.

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    3. I'm right with you, Sarah. I've experience this so many times, that I've become overtly suspicious, so I'm always willing to reconsider my views if a better explanation is offered. Sometimes, we are just too full of our own lives to see beyond.

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  11. Beautiful tattoo! As for the anonymous and questionable inquiry, it does sound like sugarcoated poison. I gave up trying to understand such people long ago. Loved your response though!

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    1. "sugarcoated poison," tastes exactly like what I read. Glad you liked my response, I do too ;-)

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  12. Did it not occur to Anonymous Reader that, you know, people grow and change and life...changes? That things don't stay the same? Especially relationships?

    And yeah, I can clearly see the insults within the "innocent inquest". They're not that thinly veiled, imo.

    Love the tattoo! It's gorgeous.

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    1. Some people go through life reading the same thing, with their heads full of what others tell them to think. I doubt they are capable of anything, but hovering. Okay, that was kind of mean, but the fact that it is pretty doesn't make it untrue, right?

      Indeed about the insults. And my gorgeous tattoo, and my modesty *cough, cough*

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  13. Well said. I love your response to the person who was a coward. Oh and I love the dragon tattoo. Dragons are my husbands thing.

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    1. Dragons are beautiful and fierce. I tend to like those who appreciate their majestic ways ;-)

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  14. Gorgeous tattoo! Very powerful! I think you can't explain love! It just happens! I love the response you gave ;o)

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    1. I agree, my tattoo is awesome... lol Actually, I agree with your explanation about how love can't be explain. We might be able to offer some insight into how we love those who claim our hearts, but he whys tend to be more complex.

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  15. Crap on a stick, never fails to amuse me people don't just say what they want to say & if it's an insult maybe take a big cup of shut-up & say nothing... Also I really don't get 'anonomous' emails, it's such an effort to think, ponder then to write your opinion so why not leave a name, especially if you truly believe if what you have deduced is worthy of personally telling someone... I don't think any Aussies could ever hold it together to have written as polite a response as you did Ms Wicked!
    Just back from extended Chrissy festivities & wasn't going to start looking at blogs until the weekend... but (or should I say BUTT) saw this (yes I should have been working) & realised I wish I had wisdom to give to people like that reader has, we'd all be perfect then ;)
    YES YES YOU HAVE A DAMN FINE BUTTOCK TOO (or is that TWO) ;)

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    1. My Shelle is back! How I've missed you. I hope you had lots of fun during the holidays, and that the whole family was together. I'm sure you'll share some pics *cough, cough*

      People are crazy, and they don't even know it. And yes, I do have "a damn fine buttock, too" as one side looks finer than the other lol

      So good to have you back, Shelle ;-)

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  16. ~still here with your beautiful charm...your tat is gorgeous! and as for little unknown...unknown they shall remain...you are here writing and sharing be it joyful or not...you are honest and true...anyways...wanted to stop over and say hi hi and hello and send for new year wishes and blessings...i look forward to catching up around here...be well~

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    1. How did I miss this message!?! I'm so glad to see you here, Brandi, and blogging again, too. Can't wait to see/read about all what has happened since we last read each other.

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  17. Why do people bother with "I don't mean to offend?" I mean, it always...ALWAYS follows with something offensive. Or do people actually think it takes away their responsibility since they told you not to be offended??? Same thought for "just sayin'" - now that one, I snap at people for saying.

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    1. People are weird, and sometimes really silly... other times plain mean, but that's okay, they usually get what's coming to them. Just saying' Ha!

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