Issues that Make a Soul Want to Smack Stupidity on the Back of the Head…


…and then kick it in its weak ribs until it stops twitching.

So, I got an email last night… The message came from an individual who runs a site that collects links that lead to witchy blogs. The person said, “After reviewing your most recent blogs, we decided to remove Pagan Culture from our listing. We understand that blogs grow with the years, and often times the growth includes a deviation from the bloggers’ original intent. We are deleting you because nowadays your blog appears to be more about lifestyle than about Wicca. Brightest Blessings )O(”

My first reaction was, “Come again? Has someone hacked Pagan Culture and blogged about Wicca without my knowledge? I did a bit of back reading—just to make sure, you know?—and nope, no Wiccan hackers lurking around my cyber-cottage; my blog remains mine and my blogging themes remain as eclectic as ever.” The person didn’t care for my humor, and replied… well, I won’t share his/her highly uptight response because it kind of made me want to gag. But I said, “I’m not sure how my blog made it to your listing, for I’ve never heard of—or read—your website. Also, I’m not Wiccan. And as you so perceptively pointed out, Pagan Culture is about the life-style of one Witch—me—not about Wicca or any other specific religion.”

Seriously, my Wicked Darlings, have you read my description of Pagan Culture, located within the About Me page? Here it is:
Pagan Culture is the place where I share some of my dark fiction, and were friends get together to discuss all the wicked fun things that make life worth living. Fine, so we also devour unsavory topics, social—and sometimes rather personal—issues that can make a soul want to smack stupidity on the back of the head and kick it while it twitches on the ground, but we do it all with a gentle grin on our faces… most of the time.

If you take pleasure in the thrills of critical thinking, love soul-loaded fiction, enjoy celebrating the good things in life, and glaring at the not so awesome ones, then you’ll probably like Pagan Culture.

 I’m not sure how anyone could take my blogging motifs—or anything about Pagan Culture for that matter—and deduce that I’m Wiccan. Like Robin and I put it, in Witch, Wiccan – Tomato, Potato, “many Nature loving people are similar enough…” in beliefs, but “what brings magic to our world is the fact that most of us enjoy being individuals.”

I, my Wicked Luvs, happen to be Eclectically Witchy to the bone.
But you already knew that, didn’t you? That’s one of the reasons why you joined the circle ;-)

The Big Flowery Butt and the Dancing Couple belong to Gina, the Witch is a bit of Shelle.
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P.S. I refuse to promote ninconpoop(y) behavior (unless it’s seriously funny), so I didn’t add a link to the website in question. 

70 comments:

  1. Me thinks this person has a bug up her/his butt. I would have loved to read the entire correspondence though!

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    1. Hm... I guess I can email you the whole thing. I didn't published it because certain stupid remarks are best deleted. This person is a real tool.

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  2. The Person has holes in their logic. If their site gathers links for 'witchy' blogs, than Pagan Culture (one would think that the title of this blog would give a 2x4 sized hint) should fit right in. If the site is merely Wiccan focused, than what was the link placed there for in the first place? Even more peculiar is The Person felt the need to notify of this 'removal' to begin with. Phoo...the Caramel Buttercream frosting I will be starting shortly makes more sense.

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    1. I wondered about why the individual felt the need to let me know. Seriously, why would I care about been removed from a list I didn't know existed to begin with? People are insane.

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  3. Sigh... some people! I've actually had people tell me my site isn't "Pagan Enough." Um... when did I ever say that my blog was a Pagan Blog. It's an anthropological one... Oh well we shake it off and move on. :)

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    1. I'm intrigued as why some people feel that they have to measure the degree of witchiness someone has in their lives. Really, who cares? Oh, the person who sent the email lol

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  4. I know I have shared this story before but since I'm old, I can't remember if I shared it with you. If so, apologies, if not, then good.
    When GK was a toddler, I joined a pagan homeschooling group so that she would have kids to hang out with and I would have bigger kids to visit with. Sounded good at the beginning. We would meet at different locations and the children would play. It became apparent that there was a hierarchy in this group. Big deal says the Aries with no self esteem problems. I'll just kick back and learn and observe. I was never included (encouraged to participate) in any conversation. Never asked about myself. And quite frankly after the third time, had already decided to quietly leave this rude bunch in my rear view mirror.
    Then another newbie and I were having a discussion where I shared my "christian educator" background with her. The (pack)leader of the group came over to us, excusing herself (I didn't think there was an excuse for her) and said we couldn't have conversations like ours in front of the kids. Because this was a pagan group and that I must have misunderstood that or I never would have joined the group.
    Several minutes later, when I finished telling Ms. Self proclaimed director of the world what she could do with her bad self. GK and I started to leave. Only to be chased down by said dictator of all things pagan. When she opened her mouth to speak, I simply said...when you stand in judgement of what you have not investigated, it totally shows how intolerant and ignorant you are. If you can call me by name I will let you say anything you want to me. I never heard another word.
    What the??????? I'm so glad you're not on that list any longer. I shouldn't think that hanging with fools is your thang.....Oma Linda

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    1. You hadn't told me the whole story. What a tool of a woman. My gods. I can't stand this kind of exclusivity. How are we supposed to learn about each other if we can't even shared the same space. Ridiculous. And totally not witchy.

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  5. I'll join you in kicking Ignorance in its ribs and smashing it's brains into a slimy mass of quivering goo. Idiots. Cheers to Eclectic Witchery...and all other Witchery as well and people who have the brains to distinguish between them.

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    1. We'll reduce it to a bloody pulp and then dance in the mess lol. I kind of like the idea of attending a party of people who can tell the difference between them.

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  6. I raise my chalice to the Eclectic Witchiness!!! ...and my flowery butt is all yours , to shove in the face of any other pompous prats that inadvertently step in your web :D XXX

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    1. I figured your flowery butt would be quite appropriate to show the eclecticism of my witchery and my thoughts about those who don't have the decency to live and let live.

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  7. Haha! They did n't know who they were talking to, did they? I am sure they will remember the conversation with you for a long long time!

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    1. I'm hope so. Maybe be that will keep the idiot from annoying other people.

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  8. Yeah, some people just assume that Wicca runs the witchy world. Pretty narrow-minded.

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    1. Some people are insane. And blind. And deaf...

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  9. People can be so silly. I once walked into a men's restroom. My mistake. I didn't yell at the boys and tell them to get out, I simply said, "Sorry, don't get up." and left. After getting to know you she will probably follow you (secretly) just because you make life sound so interesting.

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    1. Now I can't stop giggling or imagining the faces of the guys as you walked into the restroom lol

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  10. If you didn't even know of her website, then why did she even contact you? It wasn't like you had requested to be listed there. I agree she had a bug (or something else far less comfortable) up her back end.

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    1. No idea. I was specially surprised (and a bit weird out) by the official tone of the message. Strange...

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  11. An modern old problem is that some people just link Wiccan and Witch together in the same way as bacon and eggs, fireworks on bonfire night and turkey for the holidays. In doing so the ignorance they show is there own. You frequently see this problem in the media and because of that, the link is becoming ingrained among many in the general population. If I say I'm a witch and a pagan the Wiccan link is made immediately. The fact that being a witch and your faith, if you have one, can be completely separate, seems to be something that is hard to comprehend.

    I can't see how anyone who even has a cursory flip through your blog would class you as a Wiccan. Your pure eclectic wordy witchyness comes across on each and every page. To try and link all witches under one banner is always going to fail as it's spectacularly misses the point that the essence of witchyness is independent thought.

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    1. "witchyness is independent thought" is only more of us understood this concept. What a pretty world ours would be...

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  12. Another eclectic here. I'd write more, but everyone else has said it so well, I'll just say I agree!

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  13. Looks like someone linked you based on an assumption they deduced from your blog name? Weird.....but funny, too. The jokes on them ;)

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    1. I wonder why anyone would just add random name to their group. It's, well... dumb, but that shouldn't surprise us these days.

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  14. Well I am Wiccan, and have a Wiccan blog, but I truly do not think I would be Wiccan enough for this person and her exclusive club. I am eclectic, following a path that includes basic Wiccan beliefs, but I have sidetracked my way into many other avenues that are equally magickal, somewhat of the Mysteries, and I talk about living daily as a Wiccan. My aim is not to advertise, or for that matter, proselytize (which is a big no-no in Wicca)Wicca. Oh, enough said. I am a cool witch with Wiccan charm and glad to hear they kicked you out Magaly....we are the true witches, right?! Right on, sister! lol!!

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    1. I'm almost certain that you wouldn't be Wiccan enough for these individuals. Not when you taint yourself by mixing it up with other people, other faiths, and other ways of thinking. Seriously though, I don't understand the degree of some people's orthodoxy. It's almost scary.

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  15. I am so happy you are not on that web site anymore! I love that you are eclectically witchy ;o) It's the only way to be ;o)

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  16. No surprise...for many people who know about Wicca and witches...it means the same. However, the site giving such wrong info keeps confusing others as well. Like me. Because I really don't know much about modern witches's life (no, wait, I know more now because of your nice blog ;)Agree with Witchy J. I think as soon as we are all here, we have tendency to pagan believes, (including me) but we are not Wiccans.
    Just be yourself and enjoy your being!

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    1. I think the same is true for many people who follow Jesus Christ. I have a friend who get extremely angry when she is called a Christian. She doesn't like the stigma that comes with the label (a bit of intolerance here and there). I have nothing against Wicca, but I dislike to be grouped, particularly when the grouping is totally incorrect.

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    2. labeling is one of the phenomena of the modern's people thinking. But I am happy that at least some people try to overcome it by understanding other things which are different, not usual. Me and my husband are not religious (I am Christian, he is Hindu), so we can't be actually grouped as well. However we do believe in powers which direct us. We also try to unite our believes as to create harmony in our relations. Let's see.

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  17. Well that's a really random and weird e-mail. I'm glad you were able to respond (at least initially) with a sense of humor.

    People like this make the world...interesting.

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    1. I know, right? They are kind of funny, in a weird sort of way...

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  18. I love how some people hold themselves in high regard and take everything so seriously. Sheesh
    Hugs
    SueAnn

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    1. I wonder if their hips hurt from the weight of so much seriousness.

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  19. ROFLMAO!! Seriously,did you even know you were on that blog roll? Why do they assume that because you are Pagan (no matter what the flavor) that it ISN'T a lifestyle? A blog (short for web log) is personal.. it's supposed to be. *smh* I hope my blog wasn't added to that one somehow. I'd want off of that list immediately. They don't get it- at all.

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    1. I didn't even think about that. I should have pointed that out, too. Blogs are supposed to be personal, so what was this person expecting?

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  20. I'm incensed that he felt the need to point out to you that you just weren't "wiccan" enough anymore. What? You should feel sorry for that? Well, obviously he never bothered reading your blog. It changes with your life, but at it's core it is the same as always.

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    1. Hm, you make a great point. It is almost as if this person is suggesting that to fit in his/her branch of Wicca a person must remain stagnant forever. How sad...

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  21. Pretentiousness meets reality...and butthurt ensues. Oh internet, how predictable you are.

    I think I'd feel rather gobsmacked and hornswaggled if after reading your lovely blog all this time, that the apparently eclectic and diverse Witchyness that is our beloved Magaly, were to be unmasked as a really shoddy Wiccan*. "I would have got away with it if not for that pesky website and infernal blog-roll"...

    In all seriousness, though, how can anyone (even at a glance) make an assumption like that to begin with? Then to go on and add you to a Wiccan listing (covertly), inform you at some later date, with some kind of imaginary grandiosity, that you no longer make the grade for said listing (too bad, so sad) for which you neither asked, nor qualified for to begin with, is simply ludicrous.

    It must be drama llama mating season again. Hide the butter!

    Love your stuff and you are one of the best. Keep on with your witchy self. Woot!

    *(Not claiming Wicca itself is shoddy, but as you are not Wiccan, you probably appear to be a very poor one indeed)

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    1. I wonder if this person went through the list and then emailed a whole bunch of people. I'm also curious how many will fit the criteria by the time the "cleansing" is done.

      "drama llama mating season again. Hide the butter!" Ha!

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  22. You Wiccan, ummm nope. And what is with people and no sense of humor lately?

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    1. I think they need a good injection of laughter. And there is always the good old slap to the back of the head humor pill ;-)

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  23. OMG! You're NOT Wiccan?! You must have blown that poor lady's mind with that! I just don't understand why she would add you to a blogroll for WIccan blogs and then later claim you aren't "Wiccan enough" because if she EVER read your blog to begin with, she probably would've realized that you're too awesome to fit inside her tiny little box. Paganism is diverse and not every one who is called to it walks the Wiccan Path.. Some people need to pull off their ceremonial robes and remove their heads from their asses =)

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    1. Boxes make me itch almost as much as ceremonial robes.

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  24. Here I thought you were a devout haccidic jew.

    How did I get that so wrong?
    :)

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    1. Militant Queer, you made me roar. There I was thinking that my decision to get a sex change so that I wouldn't have to wear a Yarmulke. Now my secret is out *sigh*

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  25. Ah boxes and labels... people love to put us in 'em and slap 'em on us. Love yah just the way you are~♥

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    1. I kind of love myself just the way I am, too lol. Labels (given by others) can be quite dangerous, for they rarely describe the person in question. People should just let each other be.

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  26. Sounds like someone trying to build up their own weak ego by putting you down ... trouble is, you are strong and have never pretended to be other than what you truly are. Don't stress over idiocy, revel in your uniqueness!

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    1. I've no idea what is wrong with this person. Maybe s/he got the group from another person? Still, notifying people about removal is a but much. What are the expectations? Change, and you would be added again? Silly.

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  27. Oh boy. Where do i start asking the right questions??? I do think it crossed my mind that you never spoke about Wicca, but you called yourself a witch so I accepted that. Sometimes if we are patient the answer comes... But now I'm embarassed because I don'tr know. After reading the comments I am thinking all wiccans are witches but not all witches are wiccans?? Am I close, dear Magaly???

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    1. You are as close as anyone can get, my dear Francie. All Wiccans are Pagan and some are Witches, but not all Witches are Wiccans. As you can see, this is a royal mess. So if you feel a bit confused, don't feel too bad, we all are lol

      And to make things more complicated, let me say that there are many difference kinds of Wiccans and of Witches and of Pagans, and every person you ask will give you a different description as of what their faith means to them.

      I don't like the idea of living in a box without much room for growth, so I'm a happy Eclectic Witch. My spiritual path--I'm not all that religious, by the way--includes everything and anything that feels right and make sense to me, regardless of where it comes from. Eclectic to the bone ;-)

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  28. Your blog - your rules (or lack of) - it's that simple :)
    Thanks for exposing my/your witchy babe with your other treasures too!

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    1. Indeed, my beloved Shelle. And I'm always delighted to show off your colorful goodness ;-)

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  29. I do feel for you, however you dont need them! Your perfect just the way you are so please dont change you!
    Blessed be,
    KristyLee

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    1. I doubt I could change even if I tried. I think it's an Aries thing... and a witchy thing... and a Caribbean thing lol

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  30. "More about lifestyle than about Wicca...."

    I mean, ignoring for a moment the fact that they obviously can't distinguish between, ya know, Witch and Wiccan, do they somehow think that, oh, I don't know, Wiccans don't have lives or lifestyles or that blogging about that sort of thing from a Wiccan perspective might not be...topical?

    I mean, I'm really confused here. Are we witches and pagans just supposed to blog about woo-woo mystical shit all the time? If so, I guess I'm doing it wrong. Oh well.

    *skips happily off into Mundane Forest*

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    1. Some people go around thinking that to be a Witch means constant chanting and spelling 24/7, and of course, if the Witch is Wiccan the chanting and spelling will be done in rhyme, in robes, and within a circle... ridiculous! that's what they are. And lonely... and limited... imagine the little life of someone who lives only to preach and to prance ritualistically.

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  31. "not wiccan enough" sounds like a compliment to me. If it's cool to be all new agey and stuff, then I'd rather not be cool. You are YOU. And your blog is just fine because you are true to you.

    /me wanders off in search of more coffee.

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    1. There are things about Wicca that I admire, the same goes for Catholicism, Buddhism, Santería... and a bunch of other beliefs. But I don't care much for orthodoxy--regardless of where it comes from. I like the spirituality that lives in my heart and comes out of my mouth ;-)

      Hope you found some yummy coffee!

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  32. Oh, this is truly a fantastic example of WTF??? I have read you for a very long time, my beautiful wicked witch and never, ever, did I have the slightest impression that you are Wiccan. You are a precious jewel of uniquely individual magic, and we are all blessed to share your eclectic lifestyle. Warmest hugs and wishes to you, my fellow witch of all that is free and wild. I am ever grateful to dance within your circle.

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    1. WTF, indeed. It makes me feel bad for Wiccans who are as eclectic as us (Robin comes to mind) who love diversity and the witchy freedom of leaving by the love in their hearts and not by the mandate of a world of endless rules. Then again, if that kind of life makes that person happy, more power to them, right?

      Hugs right back at you. And we shall dance on, my Mina ;-)

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  33. It's because terribly misinformed people generally jump to conclusions and make rash assumptions based on the very narrow margin of knowledge they have. They've learned along the way from many other misinformed people that witchcraft = Wicca, pagan = Wicca, all witches are Wiccans dammit! Therefore, you must blog enough Wicca since you blog your witchy lifestyle. Judging from what you have said, it sounds to me like they didn't do any reading of your blog, they saw the title "Pagan Culture" and made the extraordinary leap from that title to connecting your blog with Wicca. I could probably rant all day about the blurred lines of paganism, but.....yeah, we've been over that. ;) <3

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    1. We've been over that indeed and the horse continues to kick in confusion. I can hardly wait for 2013, so that we can do our posts on the way we believe in gods ;-)

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  34. funny how this person had to send u a note to let you know they were deleting you from their LIST?!! ha! when u didn't even know who they were in the first place?
    you are you. your witchy ways...your humor, writings, darkness & light...
    who needs THEM anyway? not you, that's for sure! THEIR loss.

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    1. I've accepted that some people have issues... hopefully they will go ahead and learn how to deal with them. Maybe one of the ways they choose has to do with annoying random strangers. I hope it works for them lol

      Like you said, it's not my loss, for who cares about something they didn't know existed anyway?

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  35. I have to say this is funny. I have a 'spiritual' blog and I have a 'family' blog (I'm still teetering back and forth of being in and out of the closet.) But, after reading your blog I realized, trying to separate myself into two different blogs is just stupid. The spiritual side, crafty side, mom and wanna be artist that I am, well it's all me and seriously, who the f* cares? lol Then I come here and I am reminded.... stupid people care... I love how your blog integrates you and everything that you are, even the little wickedness that it maybe. But, I'm happy you're not 'wiccan' enough...lol you are perfect! Sorry you had to deal w/ stupid people.

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