Saturday, June 16, 2012

Rotting In Pride

Last year, a person I used to respect—and even look up to—stole a few of my articles and sold it to a magazine as if they were her own. The Word Thief was cunning enough to sell my work to a print publication out of the U.S. But the hands and eyes of the witchy world covered a distance wider than the Word Thief expected; my former critique partner bought a copy of the magazine and called me.

“Hey G, I didn’t know you were writing for X Magazine,” my ex-critique partner said. “Why didn’t you tell me? I would brag about my friend writing for X, even if your pen name is shit.”

At first, I thought it was a mistake; my ex-critique partner had not read my stuff in a while, maybe she was confused, right? Wrong. The Word Thief had copied everything almost word for word. Thank goodness, the Word Thief’s cunningness didn’t go beyond choosing a foreign market; the dumb woman used her real name.

I contacted the Dumb Thief. The piece of worthless shit, actually told me, “But Maggy, nothing in your blog says that you would mind if people republish content.”

My Wicked Darlings, if the words had come from a stranger, I would have been mad, but hearing such nastiness from someone I once admired, set my gut on fire. I ended the call without saying anything.

I went for a run to burn away some of the fury. After a cold shower, I jumped in my car and drove to the Dumb Thief’s house; a xeroxed copy of the articles in hand.

The Dumb Thief’s daughter opened the door, “Miss Maggy!” she squealed.

“This is not a good time,” said the Dumb Thief, standing behind her daughter.

I ignored her words. “I need to talk to you,” I said, putting the articles between our chests.

“Guerrero?”  Dumb Thief’s husband called from the living room. “I got new bones. Come here. Let me destroy your world.” Her husband was always trying to destroy my world at dominoes.

I walked past the Dumb Thief. I must’ve started crying at some point because when I got to the living room, her husband handed me a tissue and then stared around uncomfortably. The daughter went very quiet, too. I shook my head at the collective sight and was about to head for the door, but the Dumb Thief opened her mouth.

“I would appreciate it if you didn’t bring trouble to my house,” she said through tight lips.

My Wicked Darlings, if her family had not been there, I’m pretty sure I would have shoved the papers in her mouth and pushed each page down her throat with my foot. Instead, I told her, “You brought trouble to your house when you stole from me.” I threw the papers at her. The pages hit her on the chest and scattered around her feet. “I want a written apology from you. I want a letter from anyone you sold my work to, and I want the document to show that those people understand you are a plagiarizer. I want everything within two weeks. If you don’t do it, I’ll make sure everyone knows what a piece of garbage you are.” I walked out.

I was crying so hard when I got to my car that I couldn’t drive. I just sat behind the steering wheel and shook. Through tears, I noticed a huge Gerber daisy growing in front of the Dumb Thief’s house; the flower was so pretty that it actually made me smile. Yes, I’m weird like that. I got out of the car and walked around to thank the daisy for cheering me up. I stopped behind the back bumper in order to let a couple walk by. Before I could scream ‘you thieving bastard!’ the girl had snatched the daisy.

During my drive home, I couldn’t stop thinking about the flower. I imagined a large-eyed Gerber daisy looking at me while someone ripped the life out of her. I wondered if things would have been different, if the bloom had a petrifying eye to spot danger and a huge set of fangs to sink into the flesh of attackers. 

Many months have past since that incident, then the other night, right before I began to work on something for Stacy’s fully buttered vampire post, I got this message from the Dumb Thief:
“Hi Maggy, I know we haven’t spoken lately, but (insert daughter’s name here) is always asking when you are coming over. Would you please come over for dinner? If you come early, we can discuss this grant I want to apply for. There is a chance that I can get it by myself, but if we apply together we will get it for sure. I almost didn’t ask you, but I told myself that you were too good to hold a grudge for too long or to sit around stewing in pride until you rotted.”

I didn’t reply to the email, but the words brought back memories that inspired me to draw Fanged Daisy. Yesterday morning, I got another message from the Dumb Thief (what too ridiculous to share; trust  me). Again, I chose not to respond. Then I realized that I needed entries for The Butterfly Effect and Summer of Colors 2, and told myself, why not? So here is my reply to both of her inquiries:
My not so dear Dumb Thief, no, I will not recommend you for a writing job. Are you insane? And about our friendship, the one you murdered, I must say that it is indeed rotting in pride and enjoying it very much; blooming happily in the surrealist graveyard I’ve created for its remains; it is guarded by a grim daisy and a zombie gnome whose eyes are always watching for the likes of you. 
Rotting In Pride: Grim Daisy and Zombie Gnome

Note to the ones who might poke my eyes out, if I don’t say what happened next: I never pressed charges or made the Dumb Thief’s treachery public. However, Fate must’ve have a bone to pick with my once friend, for her life has fallen apart. She used to have a successful business that crashed after her costumers began to abandon her. Also, she seems to have stolen words from other people, took and these individuals didn’t care about her family as much as I did. 


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  1. What an idiot! It does sound like her words had abandoned her, & instead of facing this issue & trying to solve it, she devolved into a word-thief. I feel sorry for her daughter, to have this womans' shame upon her. I hope the husband is strong enough to protect the young one.

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    1. She is a pretty strange individual; charismatic enough that you would think she would be able to use that for something better, but we all know how that story goes. She likes writing (at least I think she does) but her imagination died or has never existed.

      I feel terrible for the family, too.

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  2. Sheesh...
    Hon, I bet a lot of witchy friends of yours sent enough thoughts her direction, that helped the world to see how she really is.

    Never mind, you rock! And you always will!

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    1. I suspect the same. I didn't tell many people about what happened, but my closest friends were made enough to bury her in the hole she dug for herself.

      I do rock, don't I? lol

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  3. I would have wanted the money that she got paid for the article too. And then she wants to co-apply with you for a grant? And says YOU'RE "stewing in pride"? Some nerve, eh?

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    1. My best friend was really mad when I didn't take the Dumb Thief to court, but I just knew it wasn't worth putting her daughter and her husbands through the shame.

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  4. I'm facing a similar thing. I haven't posted on my blog about it yet as I'm waiting to see which design they chose, but regardless if I get the commission or not, it will be my design.

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    1. Oh Ellen, I don't envy you right now. I hope with all my heart that you get the commission.

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  5. Sheesh Mags.

    You're a stronger woman than I am.

    You also have better hair, I have none :(

    But I wouldn't have been able to hold back.

    Sounds like karma took care of her in the end but I would have justified it by presenting myself as Karma's Little Helper, and left a flaming bag of dookie on her doorstep.

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    1. What makes you think I didn't? All right, so I didn't, but I'm sure there is a lot of doodoo on the front step of her heart. Worse, I know she put it there and that has to stink even more terrible.

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  6. "Those" people lurk everywhere unfortunately.
    I had someone ask me not long ago didn't I used to make "thus and so" and I said yes and she said look in this book of instructions published by a well known crafting house. Yep, there was my "thus and so"...mine, the exact one that I gave to a friend and showed her how to make them, pictured. She was the author of the section of the craft magazine.
    I used to do the craft show traveling mania, until I kept bumping into my own things in the next shop of someone I have never met. My own fault really because my Aries heart shares all because I love too easily. But that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt just as easily as anyone else's.
    So sorry for the pain.
    Oma Linda

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    1. People can be so worthless. Thank goodness for the ones who raise above the shit and prove the world is not full of stinkers. Some individuals deserve everything they get, especially the really nasty bits.

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  7. I thank that we all pay for our deeds. She had what she deserved. I'm aware that lately there's a lot of talking about the sentence "steal like an artist", but this kind of stealing doesn't mean "literally steal". You've been a lady, Magaly. :)

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    1. I believe the same. I think what you do here you pay for here in one way or another. So is best to claim one's mistakes and work through them, for Fate can be a real meanie.

      Thanks for your last words, they mean a lot to me.

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  8. Magaly, I hurt for you for what you went through that day at Dumb Thief's house. And also for the hubby and the little girl. This woman is unbelievable in her efforts to get you to do her bidding, as if nothing happened. Some things really cannot be forgiven or forgotten. Love your painting, it's perfect.

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    1. That's exactly what I say, Robin. I was just talking to a friend today, about something else, and she told me that I shouldn't hold a grudge, that I need to forgive the individual who did me wrong. I told her that I have forgiven this person already, proof can be found in the fact that I haven't gone and smack the individual in the face, however, my memory is very good. And my heart's memory, well, that one is physically photographic. I don't forget easily: the good or the bad.

      And I do love the drawing, too ;-)

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  9. Wow what nerve! I would have pressed charges and made such a stink that she'd never be able to sell another article again. Damn the family. If that guy knows whats best he'll take the kid and leave. I wouldn't want that kind of roll model for my daughter.

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    1. Are you sure you haven't been talking to my best friend? lol I swear I had to hold her--really hold her back. She wanted to go to The Dumb Thief's house and show her some manners in the most physical of ways.

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  10. Charisma can only take you so far before you have to have substance to back it up. This woman obviously didn't have any and her customers found out eventually, as they always will. What a low, pathetic, thing to do though- trying to use her daughter to get her foot in the door to get you to help her get more money. She will get everything she deserves eventually. Fate has a funny way of making sure the scales measure correctly.

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    1. You are right on point, my dear Traveler. Things like charm, love, truth and charisma can only be faked for so long, and when the lies start to ooze through the edges what comes out is usually really nasty. And it makes Fate chuckle as she puts her heavy foot on the head of the culprit.

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  11. Nothing worse than a thief for sure. Argh!! I am so sorry this has happened to you. I can't imagine. Well, yes I can. Someone stole my art and called it their own and sold it too!! Ack!! Thieves..hate them
    Hugs
    SueAnn

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    1. I can't stand thieves, cheaters and liars. I've always thought they are the worse people alive, for many other bad deeds can be done by accident, but not those three.

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  12. What a bitch! I'm sorry you had to go through that Magaly. You are definitely a better woman than I am. I would've given her hell and then some. And she should know better. Just because you didn't have anything on your blog saying that your words couldn't be republished is bullshit. It's still your intellectual property regardless. The nerve of some people. I feel bad for her family. Especially the daughter. As parents, we're supposed to be role models and guide our children to be the best person they can be.. The fact that she didn't even learn her lesson shows what kind of person she truly is. Hopefully she gets the message and fucks off...

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    1. Exactly. Not to mention that it is a lie. I've always have some kind of copyright message on my blog, besides (and don't fall on your face) this woman is an educator and a bit of an academic, she knows you don't really have to copyright intellectual property. She is just a shameless thief who deserves all the loneliness she is living in today.

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  13. I can relate the that kind of horrible pain in a lot of ways. What happened to you was down right garbage, but Fate and Karma are some of our best friends. At the same time I wish you would have destroyed her, you did by just being you. What do they say, the greatest defense is a great offense? No poetic, but you get the idea lol.

    \IiiI

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    1. My grandmother used to say that Stupid will eventually drown in its own nonsense. I figured that if I waited long enough, I would see her choke in her own shit, and voilà ;-)

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  14. Oh people like her make my blood boil, I bet she used to take things off other kids at school too, saying "well it hasn't got your name on it :P". Nasty bitch...good riddance to bad rubbish!
    On a more positive note...she did inspire your fabulous fanged daisy lol (and I love the Zgnombie peeking out of your page :D) XXX

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    1. My Zgnombie (love that word lol) is the main reason why I published the details of her betrayal. She knows she hurt me, but I didn't want to give her the satisfaction of showing her just how much. However, now that I can rip something good out of her deception, I'm quite comfortable rubbing it in her face. I hope she understands how much I love my grim daisies, and no she can't have them or anything from me ;-)

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  15. I'm sorry that happened to you, but... Yay for YOU Magaly! I think I would have gotten a whole lot nastier and pressed charges if possible. Sounds like she's getting some pay back though, yep Karma can be a real b**ch.

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    1. I'm a sucker when it comes to kids. Maybe because while I was a child some people were not very nice to me. I don't want to treat others like I was mistreated. She should be grateful for that, for in a different situation I would have given exactly what she deserved.

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  16. Wow that sucks pretty bad. knowing how precious words are having someone steal what you work pretty damn hard on sucks. then they get paid for it and have the nerve to ask for you help later on?? Yeah she's not a real friend. Sorry for the loss

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    1. People can be quite rotten, and conveniently blind, too. It is kind of nice that with all the trouble she is currently in, she can't choose not to see the self-smeared crap that's covering her entire life.

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  17. It is sad to find that trust and friendship have been misplaced. And even sadder to find that the other person does not realized what (s)he has done.

    Don't worry, for every self-absorbed ass out there there is someone who cares.

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    1. And your last sentence describe my outlook in life. I do believe that regardless of how many disgusting people breathe our air, the world is cleansed by the heart of really good minds.

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  18. So much passion! I just love your fire, Magaly!

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  19. I love the way in her latest email she's still kind of trying to put the blame on you. YOU are holding the grudge. YOU are stewing. Some people live in constant denial.

    Still, and I have first hand delicious experience of this, Karma may take her sweet time but when she bites, she bites GOOD!

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    1. Delusion feeds the stupidity of many, doesn't it?

      And you are so right, Karma has a strong mandible and she knows how to use it!

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  20. But you shouldn't need anthing that says your stuff isn't up for grabs. It stands to reason; if it's someone else's work, you don't take it without their say so, and give credit for anything you use. A drunken gerbil could figure that out!

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    1. Now I can't stop picturing a drunken gerbil lol

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  21. OMG! That is a horrible story. I'm so sorry it happened to you. But it got you inspired to draw which is awesome. :) Hang in there!

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    1. At least I got something good out of it, right? The Grim Daisies are always great to draw when writing ideas are fighting for priority in my head ;-)

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  22. You're a much bigger person than I am. I want to punch people in cyberspace that I don't know for taking my work, I can't imagine how hot headed and hurt I'd be if it were a friend! How sad for her daughter to have such a weak role model in her momma, I hope her dad makes up for it.

    Love the zombie gnome and daisy and the inspiration behind them! Our minds wander to the strangest places, m'dear. <3

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    1. It is a terrible feeling... Like I said, strangers make me angry, but so called friends break my heart. At least I figured out who she really was before things got too bad; still it sucks.

      But I do love my creepy gnome and daisy ;-)

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  23. People steal, people suck, I haven't got over someone who we had known for over 18 years ripping off our finished artwork, concepts & designs for his souvenir macadamia nut company, ordering more & more work, packaging, advertising, business cards (& we needed the work so happily kept doing it), printing them up (him telling us how well they were going) & him making excuse after excuse for delaying payments (which we believed for almost 12 months, they kept changing, all were plausible) & then turning around dissolving his company so 'legally' he didn't have to pay his his outstanding debts (note 'legally' had nothing to do with 'morally') & telling us off for not wanting to do any more work for him as he would 'pay' this time & then suggested we could take him to court to get the thousands outstanding & reclaim our intelectual property, but we should cut our loses as court costs can add up to thousands that we couldn't pay anyway... I cried for weeks at not how ruthless he was, but how stupid we were :(
    Your story upsets me on so many levels, that scum like that woman feel they can steal without consequence, that she still expects you should 'see the light' & work together (like what's YOUR problem??), that all those people who read your work credited to a plagiarist & worst of all, that young girl & that man who was your 'domino' buddy were casualties of the Dumb Thief too :(
    Love your drawing though & reading these replies makes me realise there are still wonderful people in the world, it's a shame we are seen as easy pickin's for arseholes!

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    1. Oh, Shelle, I feel the pain in your words. What a worthless douche bag that person is. I hope Fate is stepping on his balls right now and grinding her heavy foot. I feel bad that a few of my articles were taken, but when I think that more than a year worth of work was stolen from you and your family, I feel like exploding. I hope this person thinks about what he did every day of his life and that the feeling burns in his heart.

      And you are right, some things are so much easier to bear when so many people stand by you; the replies make me feel great, too. Who knows, maybe the fact that we talk about it in such a world wide way will deter jerks from taking what's not theirs.

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  24. Magaly, I am so sorry for you! What a prick! She has for sure got what she deserves! I don't understand how people think this is alright? But, this is even worse, when this person was your friend! Ouch! I love your drawing for the challenges! Hugs ;o)

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    1. People can be really bad (like the bastard who took advantage of your mom's trusting nature) but they eventually pay, we both know that and it is a good feeling. It my take a while, but their time comes.

      I kind of like my drawing, too ;-)

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  25. You were very admirable in the way you handled a heartbreaking situation. You always amaze me with your strength.

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    1. And you, my dear, make me grin with your nice words ;-)

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  26. She's shallow.
    You're not.
    You behaved with more grace than she deserved. Stealing someone's thoughts and claiming them for your own is a horrible act and she clearly knew this was wrong, or she wouldn't have published abroad.
    I'm sorry you had to experience this.

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    1. She is worthless, and the good thing is that now she is not the only one who knows. It is a shame that her daughter had to learn that truth about her, but I'm glad the kid figured it out before she learned too many things from her mom.

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  27. Cheer up dear friend and just let it go...embrace your art for it is so pure and true!

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  28. Wow. I came here via Summer of Colour to see what mint choc chip creation you had posted - I wasn't expecting such an amazing and intriguing post. Amazing because you have a wonderful way with words (obviously why your ex-friend thought to steal them) and intriguing because now I need to read through the history of your blog to find out more about you - I love when blog hopping leads me somewhere unexpected and wonderful. I'm sorry your friend was thoughtless enough to steal from you in the first place and then compounded that thoughtlessness by being completely obtuse and imagining that letting the dust settle for a few months would mean you could simply pick up where she let you down. I am a true believer in karma and it would seem that it has come to bite her on the behind!

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    1. You've just described the reason why I love joining blog parties--finding great people. Particularly when the parties are not exactly about what I do, for swimming in the same waters all the time teaches us a lot about likeminded fish, but there isn't much variety.

      I'm glad you are here now. I will go and check your cyber home, too. I can't wait to discover.

      And indeed on the bit about Karma, it seems her teeth are extra sharp these days ;-)

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  29. Ain't Karma a bitch?!

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    1. Yes she is, and she bites. Hard ;-D

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  30. That's horrible. I can't believe someone would have the audacity to ask for a recommendation after stealing your words. Horrible.

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    1. You should have seen my face when I opened the message. I just stared at it for a long time, wondering if she was joking. Some people have no common sense or concept of reality. That most be the reason why they get knocked on their nasty butts when reality punches them in the face.

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  31. BTW I love your new header!

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    1. As do I. Shelle is the best, I love how she can make the simplest of things look magnificent!

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  32. You might be 'rotting in pride' but I bet your ex-friend would swap places with you, given half a chance! The real sadness is that she's lost a good friend and doesn't seem to be able to face up to that, even to herself. If that continues she will always be a loser in life.

    (I love the way you wrote about this painful episode, by the way!).

    Wonderful heartfelt artwork.

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    1. She has lost many other friends because of this. And her costumers, too. I think it will hit her soon, especially when she realizes how alone she is.

      Glad you liked the storytelling and the art ;-)

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  33. I think every good person has faced situations such as you describe. Betrayal ... it leaves behind a deep emotional hurt that can be devastating. An "Eye for an eye" theory doesn't work simply because a truly good person is incapable of being that cruel.

    You vented your anger, frustration and deep hurt by creating "Grim Daisy and Zombie Gnome", an outlet that helps you overcome the negative ions that you were/are feeling. The dragon border, btw, is really awesome! Everyone has their own unique way of dealing with bad situations. You are the good witch, Dumb Thief is definitely the bad witch ... BTW ... did you try throwing a bucket of water on her? It worked for Dorothy!

    I have a unique way of dealing with betrayers ... I have created an imaginary "Dead Book" ... when I have been betrayed I simply write their name in the "Dead Book" and thereafter they are dead to me. I will not even acknowledge their presence if we should ever be in close proximity; and I will not respond to them in any form. I know, it is a bit extreme ... but it works for me. I guess it is taking the term "Silence is golden" to an extreme level .... but for me it is my shield and protection of ever trusting or believing in that person again.

    And, as you so eloquently stated (in different words) .... "Karma" always seems deal with betrayers better than you or I ever could or would.

    Take care and be happy my dear good witchy friend!
    8)

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    1. There were a lot of things I wanted to throw at her lol

      And I think I have a "Dead Book" and didn't even know it. There is a relative who lied and took from me in ways that only someone who understands you care about them would and could do. Friends and other relatives tell me that I should forgive and forget. I've already forgiven this person, if I hadn't, I would find the creep and kick her a few times. And you know what? I've forgotten, too. She is totally out of my mind. Dead and gone.

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  34. Now that I have picked my jaw up off the floor and re-attached it to my skull, I applaud your restraint (knowing that you could have taken her down and out in a dark alley and not even the gods could have found all the pieces). Pity the Domino Dude and the Innocent, though, to be tangled in the web of the Thief.

    ZGnomebie. Good. I'm too old, though. Gerber Daisy made me think of a cutesy baby girl in pink frills and lace and bloody fangs. Nom, nom, nom!

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    1. Oooh, "cutesy baby girl in pink frills and lace and bloody fangs" now I have an image of an L.K. Hamilton young vampire and a Victorian era creepy kid, I might have to write it ;-)

      Thanks for the applauds, at the time, holding back and leaving her jaw on the ground, was more difficult than I can explain. But life happens, right? And she happens the way she does for reason.

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  35. Oh wow...firstly...what people would do to get published is shocking...I am so glad you gadgets the courage to approach your x friend...and the humility not to go any further...That shows true character...i live your beautiful daisy ...my favourite flower...and your drawing is stunning...xxx

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    1. I think Gina said it a little while ago, "The best defense is a good offense," and sometimes the best offense is to do nothing and let the people drown in their own stupidity. When they realize how dumb they've been, then it will hurt them like it should. A bit harsh maybe, but completely their doing.

      Daisies are your favorite flowers!

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  36. I'm sitting here in shock. Within the last 24 hours I have learned that someone I have loved and trusted for most of my life is a sneaky lying bitch and I am hurt. I thought I was the only dealing with this... Then I read your post and I could weep - how does this happen? Where is honor and friendship?.... How did you go quietly through this? How you could keep from pointing out to the publication(s) that she had used your words and taken their money is beyond me. In my case it is hurt feelings and being lied to, but with you it's stealing your words and livelihood - Are you sure you don't want to blog with pictures and everything? (I know, I should not drive when drinking or blog when pissed.) Where is your strength coming from? and can I borrow it for a few weeks (until this anger passes)? Today you are my hero. I'm sorry you had to go through this, but your post was written just for me - thanks for sharing.

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    1. You made my heart do a few wild moves. You've said the nicest thing you can say to a human writers. My words are extensions of me, and when they feel so personal for others, when they touch a person so deeply that they can claim it as written just for them, my words have done exactly what I want them to: they live.

      I hope the individual who lied to you understands exactly what has been done, and apologizes for it. I also pray that the ugly feelings leave your heart, and are replaced with a strong sense of "We don't need to care about the worthless."

      Hugs!

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  37. What a horrible person and what a horrible example she is setting for her child. I hope if nothing else, that you contacted the magazine and let them know so she can't do it to someone else.

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    1. Once I got the letter from her, I contacted the editor. They were very nice about the whole thing, and later I found out that my work had not been the only one this woman had sold as her own. You just don't know people, until they show their ugly hearts.

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  38. that really sucks!
    it amazes me what people will do...how stupid...no respect for others.
    and then she wants you to forgive and forget?!!
    i'm not one to hold grudge...but SOMETIMES it just can't be helped...certain situations just call for it.

    sorry you had to go through that...you don't deserve it!!

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    1. I think that forgiving is good, but when we forget certain things, we end up making the same stupid mistakes. Who wants to through life like that, huh? Yep, "certain situations just call for it."

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  39. Oh my gosh... what a story... sad and cruel... great admiration for you.. moving on through it... that takes strength... good on you...

    Hugs
    Jenny x

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    1. Thanks Jenny, it was harder then. I only told a few people, for it was a bit embarrassing, you know? To be taken advantaged of and by someone you trusted is a hard gulp to swallow, but eventually the bad taste goes away.

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  40. Is this any word thief I know? Or is this a different one? Some people. I swear, she has bigger nuts than any man I've ever encountered.

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    1. Yes! I was just telling someone that a friend of mine (you) was kind of pissed at me because I didn't tell the entire world. But as we both can now, the harvest of her nasty planting is swallowing her alive.

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    2. I'm not pissed. :) I actually think it's interesting so see the differences we have as well as the similarities. "I" would have told the whole world, because that's who I am. I'll make sure someone's life is a living hell if they tempt me. Whereas you are more calculated and reserved. You let the fates decide and exact the punishments. :) <3

      "Wear midnight, Mags."

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  41. Sounds like you held up yourself very well in this horrid situation. I'm proud of you.

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    1. Thanks a bunch; that's too sweet of you. Now that I look back at the whole thing I feel kind of proud of me, too. When the incident was fresher in my mind, I wasn't as proud; just kind of pissed. Now I'm glad I didn't kick her in the face like I wanted to lol

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  42. Wow...just wow! I am speechless, I can't even comment on this now.

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    1. I understand completely, Angie, there are some issues in life that I rather leave alone. I've done it in the past, and I'm sure I'll do it again.

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  43. People are just amazing aren't hey and karma will find her and continue to punish her until she starts to come to terms with it... better to know what she is really like I suppose, but an awful way to find out... I think we have all had a frenemy like that in our life and good on you for standing up for yourself... stay proud I say...xx

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    1. Indeed. I have more respect for the enemy who meets me with teeth bared and fists raised, than a friend who receives me with deceiving smiles. The second is much more dangerous. I shall stand ;-)

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  44. I don't know why, but it always amazes me how insulting and crude people can be. You must have felt so betrayed to have one you called friend do this to you not only professionally, but personally as well. Oh honey, I am so sorry. People like that always got it coming and obviously hers is "change in hand." The way you handled the entire situation shows who has class.

    I love your RIP: Grim Daisy and Zombie Gnome. Watching eyes INDEED! You are the beauty of the Gerber daisy, my sweet and no one can steal that from you. Warm hugs sweetie. Mina

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    1. The last time I spoke to her I told her that she might have stolen a couple of articles for a little while, but because of it she lost me and many other friends forever. Life happens and it tends to crap on those who try to take advantage of others, which is why her life stinks so much right now.

      I just grinned at my Gerber beauty lol

      Hugs, my Mina!

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  45. Grrr... This makes me steam. She has def gotten what she earned. I just can't abide those who steal art and words as there own.
    But look at what came from it. A stronger you who knows who you are, what you write, and what you stand for.
    The picture is great, a daisey with defences! One that can spot danger and act.

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    1. I know all stealing is wrong, but I, too, have a special dislike for someone who steals art. It is like robbing a person of a bit of their soul... I don't feel bad for the hard times she is going through right now. She's just gathering her harvest.

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  46. havn´t read what you have bloged, but I love your dragons so much...Greez from Conny

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  47. holy frack! You are so elegant. I love your replies, and your words.

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  48. My god what a horrible thing to have happened ~ my only thought is for your heart and how it will heal from such an immense betrayal. I can only wish that you find so many blessings in your life that they out-shadow the pain and anguish you've experienced from this.
    ♥Sharon

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    1. I think I'm very lucky. I feel that for every horrible person who crosses my path, there are thirteen who are wonderful. Lots of light chasing away the shadows ;-)

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  49. I'm sorry that this happened to you...Such a pity that someone would steal your words this way...

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    1. A pity indeed. It would be nice to say I was the only one, well, not nice, but better. Yet, as you can read from the comments, there are a lot of questionable friends out there. I guess this is a life lesson--constant vigilance.

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    2. I've been told I should put a water mark across my photos for the same reason...

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    3. I would seriously consider that. Also, being that you have so many of them, I would also consider registering them.

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    4. Yes, there is a bunch...

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