The response to Hate Based Organizations has been so passionate and plentiful that I thought I should write a similar reply. I’ve been contacted by four organizations asking for my friend’s information. I forwarded their emails to her, but not before telling my friend how I felt about the whole issue.
I told her to be cautious, and to look at the big picture before deciding how to proceed. There are times when harm disguises itself as help, particularly when our decisions to assist are influenced by outrage and hurt. My friend is the single mother of a child with special needs. She needs to have a stable source of income, no ifs or buts. She is responsible for her little one.
It would be grand if the situation with her job and Little Witch was black and white, but it isn’t. In her comment to Hate Based Organizations, Sarita suggested that although most places can’t openly hate “there are plenty of nasty subtle things people can do to discriminate which can’t be proven as discrimination.” I wish she was wrong, but we all know she is not. My friend has been told that she misunderstood her director’s initial words, that she was “suspended, not fired.” Her boss said the suspension was “based on the cost of the gift, not its nature.” The organization forbids employees “from giving presents to the patients.”
My friend argued that she has been a holiday angel for as long as she has been on the job; she sponsors as many families as her salary allows, so that those who can’t afford it still get presents during the Christmas holidays. The organization’s reply? “Holiday Angels is a traditional anonymous program that benefits all clients, not just the ones [my friend] chooses.” Can you see the wisdom of Sarita’s words hovering over these words? Cogent, Aisha and many others were right too; my friend chose to work at that place. This situations sucks; it proves our world can be a wretched place, but it isn’t illegal to be this kind of heartless.
But not all is misery, my luvs… the Little Witch’s family was contacted by a private sponsor who wants to assist the family with their witchlet’s care. They hope to relocate the child as soon as possible. I’m proud to say that the sponsor is another Witch, but no name can be revealed because the person is afraid of the same situation my friend is currently trying to fight.
I want to say something before ending this post. Not all faith based organizations resemble the one my friend works for. For instance, I’m currently exchanging emails with a Catholic priest who is trying to find the best way to discuss contraception with young adults. I can read the anxiety in his words when he asks, “But we should probably tell them that abstinence is the best method.” I tell him that he is right, but that he should hand out condoms after the abstinence speech, just in case.
I haven’t done this in a while, but my heart feels the need to share bits from messages I have received the last five weeks:
From a Nun: “Magaly, Father X gave me your email address. He said you might be able to help me… I’m in love with a man. I want to be with him. I’m not sure if this is a test of my faith, or maybe I’m in love, and my Lord is telling me that it is alright to follow through.”
From Catholic Priest 1: “I am consumed with desire to worship her [a Witch]. But Christianity, Catholicism, does not allow this. Magaly, I am a priest with a parish. Catholicism does not allow it [any kind of relationship with a Witch]. My confessor goes nuts when I mention her.”
From a Christian: I am not a kid I am a grown man with kids so my decisions in life will affect them therefore I must try to make them carefully. I am a “Christian” but sometimes I often hear that, I am not what they call a “Christian” this is because I read for myself and follow what I interpret as the word. But the nature of my friend has started me looking into Wicca. He isn’t what I would think of when I think of pagans. So if you have the time I would like to ask you questions…”
From a Christian Minister: “Thank you so very much. I have two granddaughters… and a one-year-old grandson. I will look for Mythologies of the World on your recommendation. Yes I am happy and I can see that you are a happy person as well.
I didn’t mention that I am an ordained Christian minister, semi-retired now with a lot of time to think and meditate. I really want to experience an earth-based spirituality before I pass to the next stage of life. I am finding a lot of inspiration on the Witches’ Voice and on other similar websites.
From a 2nd Catholic Priest: “I talked to the Y family this evening. They are staying with us [the church]. Your Ms. Toledo was correct [I told the Priest Ms. Toledo used to say that ‘no one learns with someone else’s head, especially if that head has not been shaped by experience]. The couple is seeing a sex therapist, and the happiness on their faces after a single session was indescribable. I need to pray for guidance before discussing the issue with my [superior]. I don’t know how these things are in the US, but here they don’t work.”
From the Child of a Devout Catholic: “Mum it’s okay with me being gay! She cried at first… but she’s mostly fine now. I showed her your blog, and your Witches’ Voice thing ’bout the kid that didn’t talk to his weird mum. She thinks you’re scary, but that you know stuff. And I don’t need to go back [to church] if I don’t want to!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Mum is thinking of a name to use in your blog. She’s afraid someone will know who she is. Tell you when I figure it out. You probably find out on your own. Mum writes like a church lady lol”
My Wicked Darlings, the world is full of wonderful people who share similar spiritual desires to love, to help, to be happy, to be ourselves… I know things can look terrible at times, but I believe positive energy is the most powerful magic. I can’t prove your prayers and positive wishes influenced the individual who is helping Little Witch and her family, but here are the first few words of the email that started the relationship: “I read Magaly’s post, and I agree with her readers’ responses…”
Light a candle to brighten my friend’s work situation… say a prayer… brew a spell… do a little dance… continue sending your positive energy. You, my luvs, are the best.