Sex and Dark Moon Magic: Can’t Quit Witching, Part I

When my new living arrangements made it very clear that I was not going to be able to share my magic the way I was used to, I… got depressed.

I began to have nightmares. My writing suffered. I was tired all the time. And the stubbornness of my heart and mind refused to let me do anything but brood. Then I saw what my tenacity was doing to my Piano Man—our moods feed off each other, so he was miserable—and I felt like a sack of dung.

The thing about my misery, my Wicked Darlings, is that it doesn’t always like company. I started thinking about ways to change things around. Wait a second… I just noticed I haven’t told you why, and how, my witchy practices changed to the point that I fell into a nasty funk. Well, as many of you already know, I practice sex and dark moon magic. I’ve lived on my own—or have had a private room for my witchery—for a long time. I have been able to leave my spells to charge, in a safe place, for as long as it was required (Dear non magic users, some spells can withstand outside disturbances, but sex and dark moon magic are so wild that certain types of energies can render the them useless). My Piano Man and I share our lives with a 5-year-old inquisitive Princess who—like every child her age—knows the world belongs to her alone, everything in her environment wants to be played with, and shiny things, especially if arranged in a specific order, are “sooo pretty!”

A few weeks ago, I walked inside our apartment, and the Princess grabbed my hand and nearly dragged me to my bedroom. Her face was bright with a suppressed giggle. She pushed my bedroom door, and squealed as she pointed at my altar.

I think I whimpered at the sight.

She probably thought I was rejoicing because she said, “I know! It’s sooo pretty!”

My luvs, I was working on a bunch of spells, some to be delivered by Midsummer and a few due before The First Harvest. One of the spells was a Dark Moon Shield (a protection spell) for a Wiccaning. It was due in three days. I could not replace it in time, for it needed to be charged for 3 dark moons. I wanted to cry, but I didn’t. I just glanced at The Horned God and The Mother, smiled at the fact that the Princess had them facing each other, with The Maiden in the middle posing as their baby (I think)… and then I giggled a strange sound and told her “Yes sweetie, it is sooo pretty!”

I was happy my Piano Man’s parents were visiting, and could stay with the Princess while I went out for a walk. I needed time to come up with the best way to tell an excited mom that the formal ritual to present her child to Nature would not go exactly as she had planned. I was in trouble…

But I’m a very lucky Witch. The mom in question had been trying to get a hold of me for hours prior to the incident.  She wanted to make some changes to the spell work. That scare was resolved, but the issues practicing my kind of magic at home had just begun. 

In a few days, I’ll share Magaly’s Word Preserves: Cant Quit Witching, Part II, the details of how Ive been twisting my magical practices in order to help them fit my witchy needs. 

How do you deal with changes, my luvs? And what is the one thing you feel you wouldnt be able to quit, no matter how hard you tried?


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48 comments:

  1. It must be tough adapting to that kind of change. I've known of people who put their altar on the fridge or some top shelf and did magic standing on a ladder to keep everything out of the children's reach... and I'm thinking about getting a box with a big lock on it in case we have children. (For the altar, not for the children. ^^)

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  2. It is rather difficult to keep anything out and expect the Princess not to want to play with, I mean, they are so pretty after all ;-) I was going to box everything at first, but some things need to be exposed, also, I like seeing my altar when I write. We've been working on it, my Piano Man and I, and I think we solved the issue. I'll explain on my next post ;-)

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  3. Yes! I can see this can be very trying. Glad you are working on some solutions! I know it can't be easy.
    I need a lot of thinking time...with no interruptions. When company comes, my brain goes on a "flat line" of sorts. Stand by...ha! But after about two weeks of this, I am ready to shout out loud and scream bloody murder. So I go out to the garden or I go for a long long drive to no where or I go to my room and shut door and say I am taking a nap. This usually gets me through until I am alone again and can recharge.
    It's tough for sure
    Hugs
    SueAnn

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  4. My magical practice took a big nose dive when children came along as everything had to be put away, nothing could be left out, & as for headspace..forgeddabout it! I really commiserate with you. What works for me is long walks by the ocean to rejuvinate my mind & calm my soul, our garden where everyone's hands are welcome, & a study with a lock. Good luck!
    xx

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  5. Coming from the Teeny Tiny Flat(apartment) of Doom of which we are escaping soon, I can only say cupboards are your friends.

    Think ornate antique medicine cabinets (infact, if you google that, you get some lovely pics). They look nice, usually have a flat top to put things on that need to be exposed, it closes (and can be locked) and best of all can be placed high up on walls out little creatures' way.

    Pleased that you have got it sorted though.

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  6. There is nothing so difficult as adjusting to living with another person, in my opinion. It can be very trying.

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  7. I know what you're going through to a certain degree. Having raised five kids and two grandkids who lived with me for a couple of years, I'd found my own ways of training them to leave my altar alone. Up until a year ago, I only lived with my children/grandkids. When my guy moved in with me, I had a really hard time sharing space. It's definitely an adjustment.. sometimes it feels like it's worth it, and others times I just want my space again. I am betting on you, M. You'll find a resolution that's perfect for you, piano man and princess :)

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  8. It's hard to go from complete privacy to no privacy. I dream of someday having my own space again, but I know that won't happen until my boys leave...it's bittersweet to say the least.

    I can't give up reading. I hear so many mothers complain that they just don't have time to pick up a book. I'm the other way, I don't have time to clean because I just can't put the book down. ;) On the plus side I think it's why my oldest has such advanced speech because I read aloud to him from the first day he laid in my arms.

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  9. Oh no. I try and remember with stuff like that, that at the end of the day the God and Goddess see my intent above all else, and if something is not "perfect" then they are trying to show me a new lesson and I should be grateful. One thing I couldn't let go of? Hmm. A well-deserved glass of wine, whenever I want one.

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  10. My altar is OFF LIMITS to my son and my husband, no questions asked. He has been taught that those are my special objects and that he is not allowed to touch them. It has been that way since he started toddling. I'm also not one of those mothers that put all my breakables throughout my home away in fear he would break them. So many mothers nowadays are afraid to say "no". Well, I'm here to say it. NO you may not touch that. That is not a toy. There are your toys. Thank you for your respect. Repeat if necessary.

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  11. Privacy....hmmmmm, I remember the concept...just not the practice so much.
    It went from Sweet Man and me alone with our animals and a ritual room, crafting room, computer room to........having the grands and Shelley.
    The however is...I wouldn't trade it for anything. The grands have learned so much magick because it is out in the open. But I realize that your situation is different. Be kind to Magaly, the gods certainly would be knowing your heart. I am glad you are on the road to a solution...be flexible and curve with the road and all will work itself out.
    Much love, smooches and squeezes and a Blessed weekend my friend, Oma Linda

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  12. I realized after hitting "Publish Your Comment" how harsh and judgmental my choice of words were ... "I'm not one of those mothers". I guess we all have different ways of raising our children, but for me, it has made my life MUCH easier to teach my son not to touch things than to stress out about things being broken or to have an empty house.

    I apologize if my choice of words was hurtful or offensive.

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  13. "How do you deal with changes, my luvs? And what is the one thing you feel you wouldn’t be able to quit, no matter how hard you tried?"- I don't deal with change well, I envy your strength lol. I'm in the process of moving into my first apartment and I'm struggling with it at every turn. Being who I am is probably the only thing I cant seem to escape from, even when I try ^_^

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  14. Ever since my stepson moved in with us, I have had a very difficult time finding private space for an altar and worship. This was tough and for a long time I just harrumphed about it and did nothing. Eventually though I managed to reclaim a small space for a simple candle that I light in honor of Mother Goddess and Father God each morning. Since I started doing that small act my spiritual practice has deepened and I see that maybe by the imposed lack of space I was supposed to take a divine lesson on simplicity and getting back to spiritual basics.

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  15. SueAnn - I can be quite the little monster when I don't get to write or do witchy things, which is why I'm very careful to make it a priority. But yes, it is tough sometimes...

    Mrs BC - Long walks are indeed the best, and I wish, I wish, I wish I had an outside garden!

    Michelle - Yep, boxes, height, jars, locks and divisions are my friends.

    Debra - Living as a family has been a blessing, and I think we are learning great lessons from it.

    Kallan - We are in the "training" period, I have that feeling that in a few months we'll be to able to have boundaries ;-)

    Lilac - The secret to smiles is to focus on the goodness, isn't it?

    Lydia - I think the gods will be happy with a lot of things, but I need to be happy too. I like keeping my word, especially when I know others are counting on me. There are things we can't helped, but teaching children the meaning of respect should always be helped. If we don't do anything to teach her that is not okay to touch what isn't hers, then we can't be upset if she makes the same mistake outside the house and in bigger scales. I guess is just a very difficult situation...

    Dark Mother - I'm right with you. I think one of the things that makes some parents (especially very young ones) say that life is over after children is that they allow the children take over their entire world. Life can be very confusing and difficult if decisions are made by a child; you can't put away the tiny figurine that always brought smile to your face just because your child is going through the "touch everything phase." I think this is the time to learn together that the we need to share the world and that they have their things and we have ours.

    Linda - I wouldn't trade my family for anything either. Someone once told me that he couldn't believe how much I had sacrificed to move with my Piano Man, I told him that it wasn't a sacrifice because I gave up few things, but I gained the world. Smooches right back at you!

    Dark Mother - No apologies needed, I know exactly what you meant; nevertheless, I appreciate the clarification, you are a darling ;-)

    AN - I'm terrible at dealing with change when it comes to writing and witchery, I'm okay with the rest. I guess my problem comes when things get very personal; yep, like you, I'm kind of stuck being who I am. And I kind of like it that way.

    M. Ashley - You know, my altar was the first thing discussed during our moving together discussion--my Piano Man found a place for it and I knew the rest would be fine. I'm glad you found the good in the bad, I think I have too. I feel this experience is teaching our little family many lessons about sharing, respect and boundaries.

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  16. I know it's not exactly the same thing, but I live with two feline familiars, for whom everything not nailed down constitutes a cat toy. When I do evocation work, the cats like to lie down upon my lap and nuzzle my hands, because Goddess knows, if I'm sitting there on the cushion in front of my altar, at the very least I can pet them. Oh, and is that a shiny over there...? It takes some ingenuity, but I've mostly cat-proofed my altar space. I say mostly because cats are very mischievous creatures. Small human children, with their insatiable curiosity and opposable thumbs - Doubly so!

    In some ways, I think of those sorts of disruptions as messages from the Goddess. There's nothing so sacred that it transcends or evades becoming a plaything for felines, so I should stop taking myself so seriously! And I believe that sort of enforced context keeps me from being insufferable, and for that small blessing I'm thankful.

    Blessed Be!

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  17. Hi, I'm returning the visit, and liking what I've read so far (scrolled back and read your last couple of posts). It's also a good thing to me that you don't have word verification (can't use the stupid thing). So, with those things in mind... I think I'll stick around... *Goes off to click on the "follow" buttons on both this blog and your other one* :)

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  18. Grey - I'm picturing you sitting in your most meditative position and your kitties giving funny looks, wondering what in the gods names is keeping you for serving their furry needs. Ha!

    Toriz - Welcome to our Eclectic Circle, how you love it here. I'm keeping an eye on you too ;-)

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  19. Hi, Magaly, I read your blog often and what you're talking about has been on my mind lately. My 2 yr old is still in his touchy stage but he knows not to go near my altar unless he's adding something to it. He's decided to make his own though lol. I've had a hard time adjusting to sharing my space with my husband but he's really good about giving me the time and space I need to give in to the Witchy Itch. Unfortunately, we've moved in w/ his mom and Aunt and they are very Catholic and are not very accepting of anything outside of what they know. Hopefully you'll get it all figured out and life/love/magick will be lovely again =)

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  20. OMG Mags.
    Blessed are those among women, for patience is the stuff they are made of.
    I would not be able to cope with something like that.
    I'd lose my ability to not make people shorter than me cry.
    Which is only just barely restrained to begin with and even then only because I'm being paid by the hour.
    Sadly, I never grew up so I'd probably have done the same thing if left alone in your house for more than five seconds.

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  21. My friend, I wish you all the best! It must be so hard on you in this situation! I know you will overcome this challenge ;o)

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  22. Ouch. Yes. I know this well. There are ways you can fix this, IF you have the space. I have some suggestions. I'll place them here just in case any other witches are having problems with hands, big or small.

    1. Give the Princess her own altar. Of course, PianoMan needs to be in on this and okay with it, but from what you've said about him, I can't imagine him saying no, but I don't know him. :) If the Princess has her own altar, she'll be less apt to be drawn to yours. If she's got her own shinies...:)

    2. If you have a closet in your home that is, perhaps, walk in, or not being used much, perhaps you can lock the altar up in there. I don't know how you do your altars, though. If you have it set up to catch moonlight at all, this won't work. I actually considered moving mine into the walk in because in 2009 my mother came in and completely destroyed mine (no joke, destroyed).

    3. Perhaps, PianoMan could install a shelf for you, facing a window or near one for the moonlight, up high enough that the Princess will be less likely to get at the things on it.

    I'll try to think of some more, I have an issue currently with Zen throwing things, he's hit my altar a couple of times, so....I'm considering a couple of these myself.

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  23. Oh, I forgot something. I would be such a happy little witchy if you wrote a book about Sex and Dark Moon Magic. Yuppers. LJ the happy little witchy would pay top dollar for that.:)

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  24. Autumn - Poor you, and here I am whining about not being able to charge my spells anywhere in the house; thanks for the good witches, I wish you the same times 3.

    Cogent - I suspected I would have to Cogentproof my place you visit ;-D

    MagicLoveCrow - Gracias dear!

    LJ - You and my Piano Man think alike. He, too, thought helping her put a shiny 'altar' together would help. I thought it a great idea too, until I thought about what that meant. I don't want to start shaping her mind toward what spiritual path to take. If she comes to us and shay she wants a shiny shrine, I would help her in a heartbeat, but I don't want her to believe that she 'has to.' And the rest of your suggestions, we've some already! And we are working on some more. I love that my Piano Man has helped me put things together (I've never allowed anyone to touch my altar in the past, it feels right with him). About a Sex and Dark Moon Magic book, hm, I might have to come up with a way to help you spend your money ;-D

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  25. Oh, the poopiness of it. I would love to be with Dark Mother on the "just tell them no" bit, but for the last few years of living with my husband I have had to hide/stop doing several things for three reasons: 1) My husband and step-daughter had soooo much stuff crammed into our tiny trailer that there was literally no room. I had the top shelf of a small shelf in the kitchen once, but even that got taken over. 2) My son's father is VERY born-again Southern Baptist (ugh) and my husband has been borderline "creeped out", as he says, by my practices. 3) My step-daughter loved to ask questions about/touch my things and the husband had issues with both the questions and the word "NO". I have had to stop/hide a lot my things for a while. It's suffocating, to say the least. I hope you can get things figured out. Your Piano Man seems understanding.

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  26. Sex and Dark Magic: A Methodology for Witches by Magaly Guerrero

    Has a ring to it, doesn't it?? :)

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  27. Dreaming of Jeanie - That sounds difficult indeed. I guess I should be very grateful--okay, I am extremely grateful. My Piano Man is completely accepting and has never criticize me for my witchy ways, on the contrary, he likes learning things through my eye and then tells me how he understands them. It makes me love him more. I hope things get better with your situation because I wouldn't know what to do if I had to hide my things in that way. Actually, I know; I wouldn't do it.

    LJ - I think you on to something ;-D

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  28. Thanks for the welcome! :)

    By the way, I meant to also add that this is one thing I'm looking forward to with the planned move. I had to give up most of my "witchy stuff" when I moved to Canada, and when I got back I never replaced it (until recently, and I still haven't replaced most of it) because... Well, read my "finding the missing part of me" post from the start of June. Anyway, my family still aren't ready to accept my witchy ways, so support for ritual space is non-existant. As an example, my Mam wanted to join in with the lavender syrup and dream pillow making we did on Litha, and the following conversation followed:

    Mam: what day is it?
    Me: Tuesday... June 21st, remember?
    Mam: Does it have to be?
    Me: Have to be what?
    Mam: Does it have to be Tuesday?
    Me: Well, we celebrate the Summer Solstice on the 21st, and since Tuesday is the 21st it does, really.
    Mam: Oh..
    Me: What?
    Mam: Tuesday doesn't work for me... Can we make it a different day?
    Me: Well, we wanted to do the syrup and pillows before doing our ritual, plus I want to leave some of the syrup out for the fairies, so not really.
    Mam: Ritual?
    Me: Yes... Remember... We talked about rituals before?
    Mam: That's your version of prayers, right?
    Me: Sure, you can call it that.
    Mam: Then I better not.
    Me: It is OK for you to join in.
    Mam: I don't want to be involved in the witchy stuff.

    Funnily enough, though she avoided my place like the plague from the evening of the 20th until the morning of the 22nd, she was happy to accept a gift of some syrup and a dream pillow (apparently they aren't "witchy"... *winks*). But when I got my new altar supplies recently, she visited, and everything got moved from how I had it on the shelf I'd placed the items on (and it could only have been her, since hubby wouldn't have touched it, and she was the only other person to have been in the house... And I know she was over there).

    Anyway, to get to my point...

    When we move, we'll be a good few hours away from all relatives, so free to have our sacred spaces set up properly, which is quite exciting to us, since we've never been able to before, due to living with - or near to - relatives who can't keep their hands to themselves, despite being afraid of it all. So, hubby and I - yes, my hubby is Pagan too - are quite looking forward to having the freedom to have altars set up for longer than it takes to do a quick ritual. Which also means we can expand our choices of rituals and spells, since we can leave items out for however long they need, where as now - and in the past - we have to pack everything up or it will get moved when people visit, then damaged when they figure out it's "witchy stuff" and hurridl put it down any way they feel like, if you know what I mean.

    Brightest blessings,
    Tori

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  29. Ha! Okay, I probably shouldn't laugh, but the interaction between you and your mom is hilarious. Also, it is evident that you love her very much. Oh gods, I just imagined her sneaking around rearranging stuff--my best friend used to that, not with my altar because he likes his teeth in his mouth, but we my other things to see how long it would take before I noticed. Then he would laugh when I walked by something hi moved, and freeze.

    I'm happy to say that I don't have to hide anything from anyone. I think that is one of the things I love most about my Piano Man, he knows exactly who I am and loves me with all my bits. My family has known me long enough to know that if they want to be part of my life, they need to like as I am or they won't get any me.

    Your mom put such a smile on my face. And I'm so happy you and the hubby will have your own space soon!

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  30. My cats generally alternate between the disapproving glare which says, "You know our ancestors routinely devoured your ancestors, right?" and the equally disapproving look which says, "You know they worshiped our ancestors in Ancient Egypt, right?"

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  31. Every cat owner knows that we are our feline's humans, and we should be honored to have been given the opportunity to serve them. At least, that is the attitude of every cat I've me. Your cats sound very trued to their kind ;-)

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  32. My family means a lot to me, which is part of why I've been so reluctant to basically tell them that they take me with my witchy ways or not at all... Fear of them wanting nothing to do with me because of it. Funnily enough the pint where I realized how much my magic means to me was also the point where I finally learned that - despite the fact they can't keep their hands to themselves, while being terrifyed at being involved in "witchy stuff" - my family don't hate me for... Well, for being me. So, as of this year I've started being more open with what I'm doing, and started posting more about it on my blog, plus allowing family and friends to know that I'm regularly doing rituals and such.

    And, you know what? I feel so much better for being more open about it all!

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  33. I think that those who love us will love us regardless of what spiritual forces attract our hearts. I'm glad being open is working with your loved ones; what a great feeling!

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  34. Yes, it's a very great feeling! :)

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  35. Oh honey, I completely feel your pain. I too, am VERY territorial. Especially when it comes to my magical world. If anyone touches them, well it's like they might as well be wearing my underwear.

    Children are such curious little wonders. I remember the day my daughter took my hand, she was about 6 at the time, led me to our bedroom, walked to my altar and smiled wide, "Guess which thing is missing." It took me all kinds of composure to look at her and calmly remind her that we do not touch momma's things, particularly things in the bedroom. (I would share a hilarious story about my son and an item found in a drawer once but I will save that for a more private discussion.)

    Anyway, we finally made the rule that our bedroom was off limits to them all together. Daddy used his "deep voice" to lay down the law and it took. At least that we know of. ;-)

    I am so glad that you and your Piano Man can work together to solve these family matters as they arise. It's that kind of thing that brings all the love out in a relationship. Hugs to you, sweetie!

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  36. You are so right; finding solutions together brings us closer and I love it. You are double right about the territorial bit--certain things, are just NOT meant to be shared.

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  37. You are so right; finding solutions together brings us closer and I love it. You are double right about the territorial bit--certain things, are just NOT meant to be shared.

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  38. Oh, the poopiness of it. I would love to be with Dark Mother on the "just tell them no" bit, but for the last few years of living with my husband I have had to hide/stop doing several things for three reasons: 1) My husband and step-daughter had soooo much stuff crammed into our tiny trailer that there was literally no room. I had the top shelf of a small shelf in the kitchen once, but even that got taken over. 2) My son's father is VERY born-again Southern Baptist (ugh) and my husband has been borderline "creeped out", as he says, by my practices. 3) My step-daughter loved to ask questions about/touch my things and the husband had issues with both the questions and the word "NO". I have had to stop/hide a lot my things for a while. It's suffocating, to say the least. I hope you can get things figured out. Your Piano Man seems understanding.

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  39. Oh honey, I completely feel your pain. I too, am VERY territorial. Especially when it comes to my magical world. If anyone touches them, well it's like they might as well be wearing my underwear.

    Children are such curious little wonders. I remember the day my daughter took my hand, she was about 6 at the time, led me to our bedroom, walked to my altar and smiled wide, "Guess which thing is missing." It took me all kinds of composure to look at her and calmly remind her that we do not touch momma's things, particularly things in the bedroom. (I would share a hilarious story about my son and an item found in a drawer once but I will save that for a more private discussion.)

    Anyway, we finally made the rule that our bedroom was off limits to them all together. Daddy used his "deep voice" to lay down the law and it took. At least that we know of. ;-)

    I am so glad that you and your Piano Man can work together to solve these family matters as they arise. It's that kind of thing that brings all the love out in a relationship. Hugs to you, sweetie!

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  40. Autumn - Poor you, and here I am whining about not being able to charge my spells anywhere in the house; thanks for the good witches, I wish you the same times 3.

    Cogent - I suspected I would have to Cogentproof my place you visit ;-D

    MagicLoveCrow - Gracias dear!

    LJ - You and my Piano Man think alike. He, too, thought helping her put a shiny 'altar' together would help. I thought it a great idea too, until I thought about what that meant. I don't want to start shaping her mind toward what spiritual path to take. If she comes to us and shay she wants a shiny shrine, I would help her in a heartbeat, but I don't want her to believe that she 'has to.' And the rest of your suggestions, we've some already! And we are working on some more. I love that my Piano Man has helped me put things together (I've never allowed anyone to touch my altar in the past, it feels right with him). About a Sex and Dark Moon Magic book, hm, I might have to come up with a way to help you spend your money ;-D

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  41. Oh, I forgot something. I would be such a happy little witchy if you wrote a book about Sex and Dark Moon Magic. Yuppers. LJ the happy little witchy would pay top dollar for that.:)

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  42. My friend, I wish you all the best! It must be so hard on you in this situation! I know you will overcome this challenge ;o)

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  43. Sex and Dark Magic: A Methodology for Witches by Magaly Guerrero

    Has a ring to it, doesn't it?? :)

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  44. SueAnn - I can be quite the little monster when I don't get to write or do witchy things, which is why I'm very careful to make it a priority. But yes, it is tough sometimes...

    Mrs BC - Long walks are indeed the best, and I wish, I wish, I wish I had an outside garden!

    Michelle - Yep, boxes, height, jars, locks and divisions are my friends.

    Debra - Living as a family has been a blessing, and I think we are learning great lessons from it.

    Kallan - We are in the "training" period, I have that feeling that in a few months we'll be to able to have boundaries ;-)

    Lilac - The secret to smiles is to focus on the goodness, isn't it?

    Lydia - I think the gods will be happy with a lot of things, but I need to be happy too. I like keeping my word, especially when I know others are counting on me. There are things we can't helped, but teaching children the meaning of respect should always be helped. If we don't do anything to teach her that is not okay to touch what isn't hers, then we can't be upset if she makes the same mistake outside the house and in bigger scales. I guess is just a very difficult situation...

    Dark Mother - I'm right with you. I think one of the things that makes some parents (especially very young ones) say that life is over after children is that they allow the children take over their entire world. Life can be very confusing and difficult if decisions are made by a child; you can't put away the tiny figurine that always brought smile to your face just because your child is going through the "touch everything phase." I think this is the time to learn together that the we need to share the world and that they have their things and we have ours.

    Linda - I wouldn't trade my family for anything either. Someone once told me that he couldn't believe how much I had sacrificed to move with my Piano Man, I told him that it wasn't a sacrifice because I gave up few things, but I gained the world. Smooches right back at you!

    Dark Mother - No apologies needed, I know exactly what you meant; nevertheless, I appreciate the clarification, you are a darling ;-)

    AN - I'm terrible at dealing with change when it comes to writing and witchery, I'm okay with the rest. I guess my problem comes when things get very personal; yep, like you, I'm kind of stuck being who I am. And I kind of like it that way.

    M. Ashley - You know, my altar was the first thing discussed during our moving together discussion--my Piano Man found a place for it and I knew the rest would be fine. I'm glad you found the good in the bad, I think I have too. I feel this experience is teaching our little family many lessons about sharing, respect and boundaries.

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  45. "How do you deal with changes, my luvs? And what is the one thing you feel you wouldn’t be able to quit, no matter how hard you tried?"- I don't deal with change well, I envy your strength lol. I'm in the process of moving into my first apartment and I'm struggling with it at every turn. Being who I am is probably the only thing I cant seem to escape from, even when I try ^_^

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  46. I know what you're going through to a certain degree. Having raised five kids and two grandkids who lived with me for a couple of years, I'd found my own ways of training them to leave my altar alone. Up until a year ago, I only lived with my children/grandkids. When my guy moved in with me, I had a really hard time sharing space. It's definitely an adjustment.. sometimes it feels like it's worth it, and others times I just want my space again. I am betting on you, M. You'll find a resolution that's perfect for you, piano man and princess :)

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  47. It must be tough adapting to that kind of change. I've known of people who put their altar on the fridge or some top shelf and did magic standing on a ladder to keep everything out of the children's reach... and I'm thinking about getting a box with a big lock on it in case we have children. (For the altar, not for the children. ^^)

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