I'm “Straight But NOT Narrow”

I’m one of the happiest people I know. It takes a lot for me to get upset, well… that might not be completely accurate, for there are issues that get under my skin fast. Competent (and straight up hatred)  against individuals who are not heterosexual is at the top of the list. When I hear someone saying that gay people are evil or wrong, for loving someone of their own gender, my blood boils with rage.

The thing that angers me the most is that most of the time claimants make absolutely no sense. I couldn’t agree more with C. H. Scarlett’s post, "Marriage” – What? Why Can’t Gays Get Married?” where she expresses her outrage over statements made by people who suggested that gay marriage would undermine the “sanctity” of their own vows. Give me a break!

Most times, I just ignore people who speak that way, or politely inform them that they have the right to speak their minds; after all, I did spend 10 years in the military to make sure they could enjoy the right to run their mouths any way they wish. But there are instances when certain individuals’ right to promote ignorance really pisses me off. Yesterday, I was pissed!

You see, I was having a conversation with a wonderful woman; this lady’s heart is so big that it barely fits in her chest. She is gay. She has also spent her entire life feeling guilty because her sexual orientation is frowned upon by many close to her. Even worst, she fears that she is betraying her God and that she won’t be with those she loves when the end of life as we know it comes. She believes she’ll go to a horrible place reserved for the wicked, the sinner, the gay… These thoughts make her cry and to see her that way breaks my heart.

I can’t claim to know what’s in the mind of any god. Nevertheless, I doubt that a loving creator will punish a follower for loving another, just because they share the same genitalia. If such god exists and going against his will guarantees me a spot at a place of torture by flame, then I have only one thing to say: Let me burn!


Your thoughts…

19 comments:

  1. Great post and my feelings on this subject as well. I will never understand those that work to take happiness away from others (such as laws banning gay marriage)when it does not affect them at all. What is it to them? Why do they even care? It is hard enough to find love in this world. Who someone loves is none of my business nor that of any body else.

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  2. "I will never understand those that work to take happiness away from others..." Thanks so much for those words Jennifer. I believe that there is so much ugliness in this world that love between two consenting adults should be seen as a blessing, and if someone doesn't like it, then this person should just look the other way. Like you said "What is ti to them?"

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  3. Remind me to get you to name my articles!!! I'm Straight but not Narrow is awesome. Makes me want to start a newspaper or something lol.

    As for the loving woman you let, its horrible but so many are like her. And its a sad thing that we as a society have done that. Not just her, but we have done it concerning many subjects and situations. People carry guilt for no reason.

    I always say if you believe in God, or whoever, then its better to go to them (if that's the belief) standing proud over your life. And thats not pride because you followed the so called norm or rules. That's pride because every decision you made, right or mistake, you did at the time because you truly believed in it. If you have actual love in your heart---if you truly love the person your with and it feels right, then who the hell is gonna have a problem with that? After all---isn't that the point of everything or so some believe? Love?

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  4. There are gay-positive Christians out there and this woman needs to talk to them. I'm not Christian, but I understand the liberal stance to be that Jesus is love and he doesn't care if you're gay. He just wants everyone to love more, be kinder, act in ways that care about each other. That's the new covenant.

    The old covenant is just so messed up. Unbaptized babies go to Hell. Frankly, I don't want to be in that god's heaven. Just think of who you'd be in there with: people who are willing to look the other way when babies get sent to hell if it means they get into Heaven. As far as I can tell, all the really loving people will be in Hell. And since Hell will be full of people who aren't willing to roll over while other people are being tortured, we will make Hell the new Heaven.

    That's assuming the Conservative Christians have it right. Probably we'll just feed the worms or reincarnate or something. If you find yourself at a dinner table with chopsticks for hands, work out a mutual-feeding deal with the person across from you. Make your own Heaven.

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  5. C.H. Scarlett, I’m glad you like the publicity, now send me the check lol. You are right, one should be able to stand for oneself for the feelings that rule our hearts, but we are ‘socialized’ beings—some more dependant on societies norms than others. Some of us wouldn’t be able to survive without the love of our families and for those people, I feel real pain. I’m lucky to say that my family supports me in everything I do, so I would never have to worry about anything, but for those who don’t enjoy the same luck… well, like can be a real b!tch.

    Yvonne (I love your name btw), you are absolutely right. There are a bunch of “gay-positive Christians out there” and they are the ones that remind me that Christianity is not the one that’s wrong, but the followers of this fate who hate that which they dislike. Also, if we are both wrong and the mandates come from an all supreme god, then save me a warm spot if you get there first. We’ll have a lot of babies to save ;)

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  6. I totally agree -- there's no problem with loving someone else of the same gender. As I heard one Pagan say, "Homosexuality is the Goddess's way of birth control!"

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  7. I think when people express fear of displeasing thier "god" due to their sexual orientation it has far less to do with the opinions of thier peers and close family and far more to do with the fact that they haven't yet come to grips with who they are.
    At the end of the day no matter what god you and I pray to, even if its the same god, especially if its the same god, no one can interfere with the very personal way in which I interact with my god should I choose to do so. Nothing.
    If I allow the thoughts and opinions of others to define my supposedly personal relationship with god perhaps it's not nearly as personal as it ought ot be.
    Likewise if my friends and family are so intent on sharing their thoughts about their personal relationship with god it would seem no one I knew had a remotely personal relationship with god and that we were all supposed to share the same relationship with the same rules making it a very public relationship with a god with terms and conditions I didn't create or endorse.
    The hypocrisy of this would shed light on the fact that perhaps I'm not yet okay being myself in every way, never mind where I choose to put my dick. Or in some cases my vagina, or in some cases both.

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  8. “birth control”? Ha! Sarita you are too funny. I guess that would be a cheap and effective contraceptive indeed

    Cogent Ascending, I agree that some of the blame may lay on the individuals inability to accept who they are. Me, for instance, if someone was to tell me that they don’t like something I do I take a moment to examine my actions. If I reach the conclusion that my actions are hurting no one, and that the person who was judging me was just an annoying piece of crap, then I would just tell that person to take their opinion and stick it where the sun don’t shine. But I have my daddy to thank for that ability, for he raised me to stand up for myself and for what I believe in. I know that if things went wrong, I have a strong shoulder to lean on. If I make a mistake and I go back to my daddy to complain he’d probably tell me “yes my treasure you were wrong, but you had the best of intensions, so I’m proud of you”. I wouldn’t know what to do if he told me “you worthless piece of crap, what were you thinking!”

    I’m very close to my dad and to at lot of members of my family. Their approval means the world to me. I don’t know what I would do if there weren’t ‘there’ for me. Going through life without love, which is unconditional and relations that would support you no matter what can be horrible thing. I am the happiest Pagan I know. And if my family disapproved of my beliefs I would still be Pagan, I just don’t know how happy I would be. Living can be a burden when you are all alone… I’m just happy the wonderful lady who I spoke of has many friends who care about her and respect her, no matter what.

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  9. Here from SITS.

    I enjoyed reading your post and want to thank you for writing it!!

    I had a brother who was gay, a very close friend who is, and someone else who is very close to me which I won't say because they haven't come out to everyone yet.

    It angers me that people are so against gay marriage-gay anything!! Most of whom call themselves Christians. Aren't they taught NOT to judge?!! Yet, they are the first to always judge!! God is the only one who can judge! And I don't believe He will condemn a person just because they share their love with someone of the same sex!!

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  10. As you said, everyone is entitled to their opinions (and thanks for ten years of service in the military defending those rights!), but I agree that it's sad she feels guilt for her natural feelings, or that people make her feel guilty for her orientation. She is who she is.

    SITS girl too, thanks for your early morning visit :)

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  11. Ah synchronicity. I just found this blog:

    http://jesusinlove.blogspot.com/

    It's by a gay Christian.

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  12. “And I don't believe He will condemn a person just because they share their love with someone of the same sex!!” I concur. I have heard that God asked His followers to love one another unconditionally. But who knows, maybe I missed the part that says “This does not apply to gays”. Thanks for stopping by Keeper of the Skies Wife, hope to see you again.

    Penelope, you are quite welcome ;) I hope she reads this and maybe she’ll see that I’m not the only one who thinks that she is perfect just the way she is—imperfections included.

    Yvonne, I love the site! I’m going to stop by and let him know that you linked us. I’m definitely going to follow his blog. Thanks dear!

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  13. I'm glad that you all enjoy my Jesus in Love Blog. I appreciate your support for same-sex marriage from straight allies. We posted a special tribute to straight allies after the Prop 8 vote, with photos of the campaign signs that made us feel affirmed by our straight neighbors. I think you’d enjoy this post:

    http://jesusinlove.blogspot.com/2008/11/thanksgiving-tribute-to-straight-allies.html

    I’m especially glad I read these comments because when you told me that “Yvonne” sent you to the Jesus in Love Blog, I thought you meant a completely different Yvonne who often sends people our way. Thank God for the Yvonne’s of the world!

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  14. Morning! Now following your blog.

    Checking in from sits. The big holiday weekend is almost here!

    Ms Cupcake
    Zen Cupcake

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  15. KittKatt, thanks for recognizing straight allies. I the same about Pagan-friendly non-Pagans, for if we all took the time to look into what matters to our ‘neighbors’ it wouldn’t be hard to figure that at the core we are VERY similar.

    Ms Cupcake, thanks so much for stopping by. I hope you had an amazing weekend. I spent my apartment hunting and I found an excellent, with a very nice roommate! WoooHooo!

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  16. I totally agree -- there's no problem with loving someone else of the same gender. As I heard one Pagan say, "Homosexuality is the Goddess's way of birth control!"

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  17. Here from SITS.

    I enjoyed reading your post and want to thank you for writing it!!

    I had a brother who was gay, a very close friend who is, and someone else who is very close to me which I won't say because they haven't come out to everyone yet.

    It angers me that people are so against gay marriage-gay anything!! Most of whom call themselves Christians. Aren't they taught NOT to judge?!! Yet, they are the first to always judge!! God is the only one who can judge! And I don't believe He will condemn a person just because they share their love with someone of the same sex!!

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  18. “birth control”? Ha! Sarita you are too funny. I guess that would be a cheap and effective contraceptive indeed

    Cogent Ascending, I agree that some of the blame may lay on the individuals inability to accept who they are. Me, for instance, if someone was to tell me that they don’t like something I do I take a moment to examine my actions. If I reach the conclusion that my actions are hurting no one, and that the person who was judging me was just an annoying piece of crap, then I would just tell that person to take their opinion and stick it where the sun don’t shine. But I have my daddy to thank for that ability, for he raised me to stand up for myself and for what I believe in. I know that if things went wrong, I have a strong shoulder to lean on. If I make a mistake and I go back to my daddy to complain he’d probably tell me “yes my treasure you were wrong, but you had the best of intensions, so I’m proud of you”. I wouldn’t know what to do if he told me “you worthless piece of crap, what were you thinking!”

    I’m very close to my dad and to at lot of members of my family. Their approval means the world to me. I don’t know what I would do if there weren’t ‘there’ for me. Going through life without love, which is unconditional and relations that would support you no matter what can be horrible thing. I am the happiest Pagan I know. And if my family disapproved of my beliefs I would still be Pagan, I just don’t know how happy I would be. Living can be a burden when you are all alone… I’m just happy the wonderful lady who I spoke of has many friends who care about her and respect her, no matter what.

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  19. C.H. Scarlett, I’m glad you like the publicity, now send me the check lol. You are right, one should be able to stand for oneself for the feelings that rule our hearts, but we are ‘socialized’ beings—some more dependant on societies norms than others. Some of us wouldn’t be able to survive without the love of our families and for those people, I feel real pain. I’m lucky to say that my family supports me in everything I do, so I would never have to worry about anything, but for those who don’t enjoy the same luck… well, like can be a real b!tch.

    Yvonne (I love your name btw), you are absolutely right. There are a bunch of “gay-positive Christians out there” and they are the ones that remind me that Christianity is not the one that’s wrong, but the followers of this fate who hate that which they dislike. Also, if we are both wrong and the mandates come from an all supreme god, then save me a warm spot if you get there first. We’ll have a lot of babies to save ;)

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